Once again I go into full rant mode. Get your popcorn, pull up a chair and watch the show.
Self defense is NOT about the tools/implements, but about the mindset.
If you are not willing to commit mayhem in defense of your person, you need to get a couple of extra sets of dogtags and lace them into your shoes, your belt, and a few other places so we can tell who you were.
Self defense is about boundaries - not only the physical space around you, but the behavior you refuse to accept. Verbal Judo is one of several techniques that may help you set a behavioral boundary without escalating to a full-on confrontation, but only if you are dealing with someone who also respects boundaries. Your average mugger, rapist and ax-murderer do not respect boundaries that are not defended with force.
My wife has befirended a middle-aged female neighbor whose work is adjacent to elevated risk crime areas.
Question #1 - has this elderly lady managed to avoid any personal crime so far? If so, how has she done that? Question #2 - Why has your wife picked this elderly lady to befriend? Is there a personal project at work here?
Question #3 - has this elderly lady asked for any help in avoiding being a crime victim?
skidmark's commentary about crime victimhood and society: I am adamantly opposed to encouraging those who do not actively seek out information, instruction or advice on how to decrease the odds that they will be the victim of a personal attack. I subscribe to the "herd theory" and have no wish to move any further down the chain than I already am in regards to being old, weak, and (relatively) powerless against predators. I feel sorry for those who are weaker than me and do not choose to take steps to protect themselves, but that is a choice they are responsible for. If asked, I will offer my best assistance in helping someone become more able to defend themself within whatever limitations they impose on themself - with one caveat. They must be willing to take that self defense to the uttermost limit of, if necessary, killing another human being. If they draw a line short of that, then it says to me that they do not really want to defend themself, but rather want to pose and posture in the hope that they can bluff their way out of a situation.
Yes, bluffs work. Most of the time. But if your bluff does not work you are left with two extreme options - running away faster and farther than that which you were trying to bluff, or incapacitating them before they incapacitate you.[/rant]
Let's go back to Question #1 again. How has this elderly lady managed to not be a crime victim so far? If it seems to be working, does she really need to do anything else?
stay safe.
skidmark