First, we are all crazy for arguing with BW about this right now, given the circumstances.
Second, Microbalrog is really missing the point.
Seriously, re-read the post.
Third, English-speaking people refer to grown men as "boys" very frequently, perhaps more frequently in the American South. This is usually not regarded as offensive.
Fourth, lee n. field, if I refer to my wife as a "girl," it's a term of endearment; the furthest thing from "bashing."