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Title: Ladies, Why So Quiet?
Post by: LadySmith on November 14, 2006, 03:50:46 AM
I've been jumping around gun forums all over the place and have noticed that the females have gotten very, very quiet while the males are yakking up a storm. Just wondering why. Tired? Bored? Nesting for the autumn/winter? Disgusted?
Title: Re: Ladies, Why So Quiet?
Post by: Perd Hapley on November 14, 2006, 04:15:57 AM
It's 'cause they know what's good for 'em.  And if you know what's good for ya, you'll watch it, Toots!  We need an overbearing chauvanist pig smiley on this board.  Smiley
 
No, really, I've been hanging around THR and APS for two or three years and it's always been an estrogen-deprived environment.  I don't think you're seeing anything new.  But let's look at member LadySmith on THR.  About 200 posts in two years?  That's under ten posts per month.  And you haven't posted there in over two weeks.  Why are you so quiet? 
Title: Re: Ladies, Why So Quiet?
Post by: Marshall on November 14, 2006, 05:03:35 AM
Oh heck,  I dunno, some of us really post up a storm here.  laugh
Title: Re: Ladies, Why So Quiet?
Post by: Felonious Monk/Fignozzle on November 14, 2006, 05:57:05 AM
Marshall, welcome, since I've not seen you here before.

I once knew a beauty named Marshall Hopkins that I went to JMU with, who spelled it the same way you do.  We went out a couple of times, played racquetball and such, but ironically, I was so smitten that I managed to convince myself she was out of my league and didn't pursue the relationship thereafter.

Thanks for the fond memories!
Fig
Title: Re: Ladies, Why So Quiet?
Post by: Perd Hapley on November 14, 2006, 06:06:34 AM
Marshall, welcome, since I've not seen you here before.

I once knew a beauty named Marshall Hopkins that I went to JMU with, who spelled it the same way you do.  We went out a couple of times, played racquetball and such, but ironically, I was so smitten that I managed to convince myself she was out of my league and didn't pursue the relationship thereafter.

Thanks for the fond memories!
Fig
I've no doubt Mr. Fignozzle meant well, but I think posts such as his are a big reason so few women are active on these boards.  There's nothing wrong with Fig's comment, he was very nice and all, but women on a gun board are usually seen as potential girlfriends.  If I were a woman, I might just let my gender go under the radar to avoid come-ons and such.  And come to think of it, I would have assumed Marshall was a man.  I bet most of us would.  Maybe there a lot more women here than we think.

Speaking of girls, where's Hunter Rose?  Smiley
Title: Re: Ladies, Why So Quiet?
Post by: Marshall on November 14, 2006, 07:02:40 AM
It's OK, no harm meant. I'm a dude anyway.

I've been posting on THR since '02 and have accumulated somewhere around 4,300 posts under the same name I use here. I just visit here from time to time, it's a fun place to read. I'll have to post more.

Thanks for the welcome.  smiley
Title: Re: Ladies, Why So Quiet?
Post by: StopTheGrays on November 14, 2006, 08:57:43 AM
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Speaking of girls, where's Hunter Rose?
laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh
Title: Re: Ladies, Why So Quiet?
Post by: cosine on November 14, 2006, 12:05:45 PM
Speaking of girls, where's Hunter Rose?  Smiley

I won't forget the time he corrected me for calling him a "her" in a post. Of course, I was too stupid to notice that he clearly stated in his sig line that he wasn't a woman.
Title: Re: Ladies, Why So Quiet?
Post by: Felonious Monk/Fignozzle on November 14, 2006, 12:30:56 PM
Yikes!

I'm happily married, guys.  I intended no insinuation of anything other than a rose-colored glance back at my younger days.  undecided

Sorry if it seemed anything else!
Title: Re: Ladies, Why So Quiet?
Post by: Brrlgrrl on November 14, 2006, 01:34:06 PM
I'm still lurking occasionally.  I do miss you guys, as I haven't been around much lately. Personally, I find flying under the radar is in my best interest for where I live in regards to self defense.  You know the general public actually frowns on independance and self defense here...
 
Anyway still up for the recipes, and think I'll try that Honey Hooch that was just posted about.
Anyone heard from Jim March lately?
Nice to see you guys again, I'll try not to be such a stranger.

Susan
 
Title: Re: Ladies, Why So Quiet?
Post by: Guest on November 14, 2006, 01:37:39 PM
I'm annoyed by men who call other men women as a way of poking fun at them.

I'm more annoyed by the people who want freedom for themselves but not for anyone else. That's why I don't post here much these days.
Title: Re: Ladies, Why So Quiet?
Post by: Perd Hapley on November 14, 2006, 02:25:22 PM
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I'm more annoyed by the people who want freedom for themselves but not for anyone else.

Edit:  Let's just say I can get annoyed at "sniping" too.   

Title: Re: Ladies, Why So Quiet?
Post by: Nightfall on November 14, 2006, 03:22:30 PM
Oh fistful, you don't ever turn it off, do you?  laugh
Title: Re: Ladies, Why So Quiet?
Post by: Guest on November 14, 2006, 03:45:26 PM
Nope. He doesn't. God appointed him guardian of the world and gave him APS as his dominion.
Title: Re: Ladies, Why So Quiet?
Post by: Guest on November 14, 2006, 03:46:48 PM
And not that my beliefs are any of your business, but I'm not pro-abortion. Way to make assumptions, though. Give yourself extra prayer cookies.
Title: Re: Ladies, Why So Quiet?
Post by: cosine on November 14, 2006, 03:52:22 PM
Nope. He doesn't. God appointed him guardian of the world and gave him APS as his dominion.

Humor at its best.  laugh
Title: Re: Ladies, Why So Quiet?
Post by: 280plus on November 14, 2006, 04:27:23 PM
Yea, and to think he's blaming others for chasing the girls away.  rolleyes

 cheesy

Title: Re: Ladies, Why So Quiet?
Post by: caseydog on November 14, 2006, 04:33:48 PM
Ya know Fistful someone has to say it , and well if it gets me thrown off , well ~ sobeit

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I have more posts than all of you, so shut up

The reason for that is that you insist on posting in virtually every thread whether you have anything meaningful to add or not (mostly not) ,Such as a woman speaking to the other women,

 a good bit of the divisivness here lately has a lot of your little snipes and drive bys at the root

Yes I know I only have 100 + posts so smite me quickly O King

Sorry girls , didn't mean to step in "it" here but it fit well , carry on  grin

Ray

Title: Re: Ladies, Why So Quiet?
Post by: Antibubba on November 14, 2006, 08:21:54 PM
I'm much more disturbed by the number of "girls" posting, who aren't.   shocked
Title: Re: Ladies, Why So Quiet?
Post by: Perd Hapley on November 14, 2006, 08:40:59 PM
Actually, Barbara, I assumed you were speaking of homosexual marriage. 

But a note to my detractors - I was not the first to get political in this thread.  Nor was I the first to slight the political views of other members. 

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a good bit of the divisivness here lately has a lot of your little snipes and drive bys at the root
  Would you care to provide examples, or are you just blowing smoke? 
Title: Re: Ladies, Why So Quiet?
Post by: LadySmith on November 14, 2006, 09:25:22 PM
Ok, let me answer this question:
[/quote]But let's look at member LadySmith on THR.  About 200 posts in two years?  That's under ten posts per month.  And you haven't posted there in over two weeks.  Why are you so quiet? 
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1. I'm a do-er. If I ask a question, I'll thank those who replied and go see how the suggestions work in real life.
2. I'm contemplative. I'll let advice sink in and then take action.
3. I loathe bitchiness regardless of gender. I've mellowed over the years and have better things to do than get into a pissing match online for kicks.
4. See my sig line.
Title: Re: Ladies, Why So Quiet?
Post by: Vodka7 on November 14, 2006, 11:17:08 PM
It's not just APS and THR, almost all of the forums I read and the one chat room I frequent are like that.  You get three types of girls online (yes, yes, thank you, we have all read the bash quote, I'm talking about real women here): 1) the flirter who shows up for a month or two, attracts the attentions of every lonely male until one creeps her out and she disappears forever; 2) the lurker, who usually keeps her gender quiet; and 3) the active poster who don't take any crap and ingores dopey fawning boys.

Thankfully we don't have any 1's here, and we've got a good mix of 2's and 3's.  Of course, since the 2's and 3's don't make a big deal about being a girl and give "hugs" and post pictures of themselves every single day, no one really remembers them.
Title: Re: Ladies, Why So Quiet?
Post by: Guest on November 15, 2006, 12:29:25 AM
I've barely read that thread, Fistful. But please consider what caseydog said. You've developed a habit of blasting into every thread and giving your opinion, regardless of how relevent it is.

This thread is a prime example.  You came in, told someone else they were the reason women don't post here, and then called Hunter Rose a girl as if it was some kind of insult.

You used to give the impression you thought before you posted, even when I disagreed with you. Now its just random sniping and holier than thou stuff and it happens in way too many threads.
Title: Re: Ladies, Why So Quiet?
Post by: LadySmith on November 15, 2006, 02:13:13 AM
Not to turn this into a Fistful-bashing thread, and not to defend Barbara who is clearly more than capable of defending herself, let me say something about this:
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I was not the first to get political in this thread.  Nor was I the first to slight the political views of other members.

I don't get it. If it's in reference to this:
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I'm more annoyed by the people who want freedom for themselves but not for anyone else. That's why I don't post here much these days.

I see it as simply an answer to my question. Am I missing something?
Are we voting Fistful off the island? Just kidding, Fistful (that was for calling me "Toots").  cheesy
Title: Re: Ladies, Why So Quiet?
Post by: Perd Hapley on November 15, 2006, 03:17:45 AM
Ladysmith, some people may not understand what Barbara was getting at with her comment, but I think I do.  I remember her using that phrase ("people who want freedom for themselves but not for anyone else") in a thread not long ago, and in regards to the issue I just mentioned.  As women do not necessarily have the same political ideas, I did not take it as an answer to the question, but as a political snipe - to use a term that is suddenly popular here.  I suppose we're both a little touchy.
Title: Re: Ladies, Why So Quiet?
Post by: Perd Hapley on November 15, 2006, 03:24:46 AM
I regret participating in an attempt to take this thread off-topic, but I will post about this one more time.  If I have "sniped" anyone or taken a holier-than-thou attitude, please send me a PM, and let me know where I have gone wrong.  I do post far too much here, for reasons I can't quite explain right now.  No, I'm not unemployed or in minimum-security, just have more time on my hands lately. 

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You came in, told someone else they were the reason women don't post here, and then called Hunter Rose a girl as if it was some kind of insult.

The first is simply not true.  The second is quite true, but I thought we would all be able to take a joke - a long-standing joke between me and Hunter Rose.  If you don't feel it is an insult for a man to be called a woman, or a woman a man, then you are in the minority.  Your quarrel is not with me, but with human nature. 
Title: Re: Ladies, Why So Quiet?
Post by: Guest on November 15, 2006, 03:38:41 PM
Whatever, Fistful. The question was why women don't post here. I can't speak for all of womankind, us not being the Borg and all, but only for myself. The main reason is you and your behavior on various threads lately. That and a buck will get you a cup of coffee but there you go.

If something is going on in your life that is causing you to accidently obnoxious, I'm sorry. You used to be much more thoughtful, or so it seemed, and I'm disappointed. Whatever it is, I hope it resolves itself. Soon would be good.
Title: Re: Ladies, Why So Quiet?
Post by: grampster on November 15, 2006, 04:07:04 PM
Barbara,

Been meaning to thank you for all your hard work on our dove hunting proposal.
When I saw the ads the anti's were running of the bird flapping piteously on the ground, and calling them "songbirds" (which they are not) and "target practice" (I actually heard this talking point coming out of the mouths of folks around here) I knew we were lost.  I live in a rural area where hunting is king and the proposal went down even here in Newaygo county two to one.

My wife even got distressed with me for convincing her to vote yes after she saw the ads.  We voted absentee a couple weeks early.  The anti's play hardball.
Title: Re: Ladies, Why So Quiet?
Post by: Guest on November 15, 2006, 04:12:59 PM
Had a couple of old ladies offer to shoot me at Cabelas for killing the bird of peace. Smiley

We were outspent from the start. Maybe people will wake up now..who knows? I just figured if it crashed and burned, it wasn't going to be my fault.

My goal this year is to raise money for pro-gun candidates..one fundraiser a month. Looks like I'm covered through April (Tentatively: January: Chili cook-off in Howell. February - .22 indoor pin shoot in Jackson. March - some kind of rifle thing in BC. April - Machine Gun/50 Cal. Shoot in Lapeer.)

Anyhow. Fistful. If I'm being mean, I apologize. But please, give it some thought.

Title: Re: Ladies, Why So Quiet?
Post by: Perd Hapley on November 15, 2006, 06:27:09 PM
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The main reason is you and your behavior on various threads lately.
Funny.  I'm not on any of the other gun boards where Ladysmith has noticed the same trend. 
Title: Re: Ladies, Why So Quiet?
Post by: Guest on November 16, 2006, 12:42:33 AM
Well, there you go, Fistful. It's not you, it's me. Have fun.
Title: Re: Ladies, Why So Quiet?
Post by: Felonious Monk/Fignozzle on November 16, 2006, 08:19:07 AM
I haven't posted all that much lately.   And I realize that may be a relative statement, but based on my habitual participation, it's true.

That's because I'm dealing with some hard personal stuff right now.

I really miss the kind of atmosphere of friendship we had when discussing our fellowship of Christians, Jews, and other spiritual folks thread. 

I miss the great discussions of computer upgrades, single malt scotches, vintage cars, frugal/luxurious living, and so on.

I don't know why; but lately it seems the signal to noise ratio has gone from really good to really crappy.  That can't be done by any one person, and it can't be corrected by one person, either.  undecided
Title: Re: Ladies, Why So Quiet?
Post by: Werewolf on November 16, 2006, 12:29:19 PM
I really miss the kind of atmosphere of friendship we had when discussing our fellowship of Christians, Jews, and other spiritual folks thread. 

I miss the great discussions of computer upgrades, single malt scotches, vintage cars, frugal/luxurious living, and so on.

I don't know why; but lately it seems the signal to noise ratio has gone from really good to really crappy.  That can't be done by any one person, and it can't be corrected by one person, either.  undecided
It's election season - or was. I've noticed a whole lot more Politics related threads lately which is to be expected before and after an election.

Politics is one of the big three that it is said shouldn't be discussed among friends.

Give it a month and things will calm down and thread topics will drift more towards what we enjoy and away from any but the most dramatic of current events.
Title: Re: Ladies, Why So Quiet?
Post by: Antibubba on November 16, 2006, 08:34:38 PM
Fistful, please refer to my sig, and go heat the water.    smiley
Title: Re: Ladies, Why So Quiet?
Post by: Perd Hapley on November 16, 2006, 08:41:46 PM
Had some last night - sore throat.  Actually, it was black cherry flavor stuff.  Pretty good, though I usually find flowery, fruity teas to be little better than brown water.  Orange Pekoe is my mainstay - hot or iced.

How am I the one that needs to lighten up?  If anything, others are offended that I'm too, er, light. 
Title: Re: Ladies, Why So Quiet?
Post by: RadioFreeSeaLab on November 17, 2006, 11:50:22 AM
I'm not a lady, but I don't post often because I go in cycles.
Currently, I'm in an "ignore the forums" cycle. 
Title: Re: Ladies, Why So Quiet?
Post by: Stand_watie on November 17, 2006, 02:47:02 PM
I haven't posted all that much lately.   And I realize that may be a relative statement, but based on my habitual participation, it's true.

That's because I'm dealing with some hard personal stuff right now...

We're here for you buddy. Take your time and come back to it when you're ready. P.M. me if you need somebody to commiserate regarding life dumping on you at times.
Title: Re: Ladies, Why So Quiet?
Post by: DrAmazon on November 18, 2006, 06:59:35 AM
I've been too darned busy.  I used to read this forum in the evening, while watching TV, but this semester I've had two night classes dumped on me.  Losing my evenings has taken a toll on my socializing, housekeeping and keeping up with grading and class prep. 

I read my usual smattering of threads, comment here and there and crawl back into my burrow of papers.

Besides, I get enough grumbling, crabbing and arguing points that no one will budge on at work, especially this year.