I put the asterisk (*) after one sentence to relay a story. I'll do so later.
I'll just give you my story, and you can take it for what it's worth.
In the first couple of years of marriage, I was called every name that you can imagine, and then some. Friday and Saturday nights were either for love-making, or for real ball-breaking fights.
That was my wife. Then.
Her sister is 18 years younger, and I got to talking to her husband at length a few weeks ago.
He just couldn't believe the verbal abuse he's taking.
I told him, "welcome to the XYZ family, pal. I've been through this many, many times before."
Sometimes it's just there. It's there in the family, it's there in whatever happened to her before you met her, or it's just there forever (God forbid).
It's up to you whether to just abandon ship or stay the course until she rights herself. Notice I said that "she rights herself." If you haven't been abusive, then it's her chance or choice to save the marriage.
*As for the asterisk: Several years back I had to rent an airplane hangar to photograph some very large trucks. The owner of the hangar was the son of the president of a good-sized chemical company.
He told me that his wife---an absolutely stunning Asian woman---was suing him for divorce. Not just divorce, but her attorney was going after an award of 10% of all of this guy's future income in one lump sum settlement.
How's the guy going to know how much money he's going to make over the next ten years?
Anyway, the guy's attorney is the attorney who pretty much wrote Wisconsin's divorce laws.
The attorney pulled out a Rolodex, with a whole list of handsome guys on it. He told his client that, for $100,, any one of these guys would meet the ex-wife, date her, and marry her within a year, and that the client would be off the hook.
The guy refused, based on his principles.
Last I heard, the guy was still getting bled dry by his ex-wife.
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