How American parenting is killing the American marriage

[Balog]

Interesting read, although it's obviously limited to a certain set of socio-economic circles. Neither Cletus nor Laqueefa tends to fall into this category, although that emphatically does not make them better at either parenting or marriage. I've long said that the best thing you can do for your kids is making them the second priority behind your spouse. Not only does it help avoid special snowflake indigo child problems, it drastically reduces the likelihood of the horrifically traumatic event that is divorce.

http://qz.com/273255/how-american-parenting-is-killing-the-american-marriage/

There are doubtless benefits that come from elevating parenthood to the status of a religion, but there are obvious pitfalls as well. Parents who do not feel free to express their feelings honestly are less likely to resolve problems at home. Children who are raised to believe that they are the center of the universe have a tough time when their special status erodes as they approach adulthood. Most troubling of all, couples who live entirely child-centric lives can lose touch with one another to the point where they have nothing left to say to one another when the kids leave home.

[grampster]

Around 20 years ago I had predicted that the divorce problem in America would change and there would be less of them.  My reasoning was that the huge number of kids who were traumatized by divorce would say to themselves that they would never want to put their kids through the same trauma.

I was apparently really, really wrong based on how many divorces still occur, the decline in people actually getting married, and the explosion of out of wedlock children and the destruction of the two parent household.

[Mannlicher]

most child abusers, and wife abusers, were raised in families where child abuse and spousal abuse were happening.

[zahc]

Another reason that kids get more status and more attention is that most of them live now, and families are smaller. When you had 8 children, hoping that a half-dozen would survive to adolescence, then it was easier to avoid spoiling them.