I think that's what I said. (that's what I was trying to say)
You said, and I quote:
I do think that Memorial Day is the one day out of the year that it's totally inappropriate to thank a vet or servicemember. Maybe you can buy him a beer and just listen while he talks...
I have bought beers for dead servicemembers. Either left a can at their headstone/at their panel at The Wall, or a glass at the bar*.
But so far I have not sat down and listened while dead servicemembers talked. It could be me - there are lots of people who don't want to talk with/to/at me and dead servicemembers have no lock on that.
Buy a vet a beer on Veterans Day. Listen to them on Veterans Day, if they are willing to talk.
Not yelling at you Bob - just pointing out that even the most well-intentioned can at times get the days mixed up.
stay safe.
* - When I went to the head a bartender emptied/washed a glass of beer sitting on the bar that I had told him was for a dead friend. He replaced it (after some discussion). Guy I know who worked security there told me the second glass - on the house - was the last thing touched before the place was locked up. Said that after I left the bartender guarded it like it was the Tomb of the Unknown Soldiers.