Men: Would you prefer to marry a virgin woman?

[HeroHog]

Damn you, Speedy.  I've been waiting for years to craft a good pun with cloaca.

I voted no preference.  Doesn't make a vast difference.

(Go ahead ^.  You know you want to. :D )

However, in terms of the poll questions, isn't "virgin woman" a contradiction in terms?

IKR? Kinda hard word to work into normal conversation!

[Perd Hapley]

Hypothetically, what is your preference?   

It wasn't hypothetical in my case.

Perhaps I'm ignorant but is there some Christian proscription on marrying non-virgins?

Strictly speaking, no. But...

The admonition against being unequally yoked is often interpreted to mean, among other things, that Christians should only marry believers. Believers are expected to reserve sex for marriage. So there's that.

Obviously, the Christian bride or groom may have had some, uh, experience from before they believed. Or may have strayed after.

So, no, there's no real proscription.

[Ron]

Do you expect a bunch of guys who have probably compromised on that issue to give you an honest answer?

Not too many men have a clapped out party girl as their ideal but in this day and age you take what you can get.

The longer you wait to get married the higher the percentage of available women you meet who’ve spent time on the cock carousel.

As was mentioned previously, I’m also too old to have that as an expectation in any potential mates. The best us old guys can hope for is finding someone who isn’t jaded from decades of being pumped and dumped.

[Jocassee]

Married a virgin. Haven't regretted it, in fact I have enjoyed being her first, best and only (as she has mine).

Yes, the first night was awkward, but we still made it work (several times) 

[lee n. field]

Married a virgin. Haven't regretted it, in fact I have enjoyed being her first, best and only (as she has mine).

Yes, the first night was awkward, but we still made it work (several times) 

it's not that hard to figure out.

[BlueStarLizzard]

Married a virgin. Haven't regretted it, in fact I have enjoyed being her first, best and only (as she has mine).

Yes, the first night was awkward, but we still made it work (several times) 

I'm considerably more cool with the idea when it's both parties going to the wedding night as (educated) virgins. My issue is when it's just the female that's expected to be "pure", which has been mostly the case for centuries, especially as "pure" often means completely ignorant of the ways things work as well as physically untouched.

Too many woman end up with really crappy ideas about sex and unsatisfactory sex lives largely due to the concept of "sexual purity".

[lupinus]

it's not that hard to figure out.

Just don't put the square peg in the round hole.

That's a little more advanced activity....

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[Andiron]

Married a virgin. Haven't regretted it, in fact I have enjoyed being her first, best and only (as she has mine).

Yes, the first night was awkward, but we still made it work (several times) 

We did a similar thing,  but in highschool, with an interlude of several years while she went to college and I joined the military.  Saw other people and did our own thing, ended up together happily in the end.

[just Warren]

https://youtu.be/4Kwh3R0YjuQ

[sumpnz]

Married a virgin. Haven't regretted it, in fact I have enjoyed being her first, best and only (as she has mine).

Yes, the first night was awkward, but we still made it work (several times) 

We weren't virgins on our wedding night, but we've only ever been with each other. 

The idea you have find out if you're "sexually compatible" I think is mostly bunk.  Like I think HeroHog said, it's something you can and should learn over time together how to do to mutual satisfaction.  It's got to be a rather rare couple that can't make that happen if they actually want to and have otherwise gone into the marriage for the right reasons.  Most of the time when that fails there are much deeper issues not being addressed.

[BlueStarLizzard]

We weren't virgins on our wedding night, but we've only ever been with each other. 

The idea you have find out if you're "sexually compatible" I think is mostly bunk.  Like I think HeroHog said, it's something you can and should learn over time together how to do to mutual satisfaction. It's got to be a rather rare couple that can't make that happen if they actually want to and have otherwise gone into the marriage for the right reasons.  Most of the time when that fails there are much deeper issues not being addressed.

I hate to even have to go there, but... Well, you don't really know, since you have no basis for comparison.

I've been with guys that were rubbish, relationship wise, but AWESOME in bed and I've been with promising relationship guys and, well, meh...

You may be very happy with what you're getting but some of that may be due to the "ignorance is bliss" factor.

[MechAg94]

I saw this earlier.  I hope it is not offensive, but I guess it illustrates the priorities of a lot of young men.

"Bless me Father, for I have sinned. I have been with a loose girl."
The priest asks, "Is that you, little Joey Pagano?"
"Yes, Father, it is."
"And who was the girl you were with?"
"I can't tell you, Father. I don't want to ruin her reputation."
"Well, Joey, I'm sure to find out her name sooner or later so you may as well tell me now. Was it Tina Minetti?"
"I cannot say."
"Was it Teresa Mazzarelli?"
"I'll never tell."
"Was it Nina Capelli?"
"I'm sorry, but I cannot name her."
"Was it Cathy Piriano?"
"My lips are sealed."
"Was it Rosa DiAngelo, then?"
"Please, Father! I cannot tell you."
The priest sighs in frustration. "You're very tight lipped, and I admire that. But you've sinned and have to atone. You cannot be an altar boy now for 4 months. Now you go and behave yourself."
Joey walks back to his pew, and his friend Franco slides over and whispers, "What'd you get?"
"Four months vacation and five good leads..."

[TechMan]

I saw this earlier.  I hope it is not offensive, but I guess it illustrates the priorities of a lot of young men.

 

[cordex]

I hate to even have to go there, but... Well, you don't really know, since you have no basis for comparison.

I've been with guys that were rubbish, relationship wise, but AWESOME in bed and I've been with promising relationship guys and, well, meh...

You may be very happy with what you're getting but some of that may be due to the "ignorance is bliss" factor.

Counterpoint: have you ever tried being with the same partner who has spent a decade or more learning your body and what you like?

[lupinus]

Counterpoint: have you ever tried being with the same partner who has spent a decade or more learning your body and what you like?

Yes.

And she was miserable at it.

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[Scout26]

Ditto, to an extent.  She was only concerned about what she liked.  I was a mere prop.

[freakazoid]

Ditto, to an extent.  She was only concerned about what she liked.  I was a mere prop.

I'm pretty sure some people pay extra for that.

[French G.]

Yes.

And she was miserable at it.

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Yeah, I married that. Nothing like being responsible for your good time and hers.

[BlueStarLizzard]

Do you expect a bunch of guys who have probably compromised on that issue to give you an honest answer?

Not too many men have a clapped out party girl as their ideal but in this day and age you take what you can get.

The longer you wait to get married the higher the percentage of available women you meet who’ve spent time on the cock carousel.

As was mentioned previously, I’m also too old to have that as an expectation in any potential mates. The best us old guys can hope for is finding someone who isn’t jaded from decades of being pumped and dumped.

Because you aren't jaded on the subject at all. 

[lupinus]

Yeah, I married that. Nothing like being responsible for your good time and hers.

"that's your job" was her favorite line.

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[Fly320s]

Men: Would you prefer to marry a virgin woman?

Better than marrying a virgin man.

[lupinus]

Better than marrying a virgin man.

Hey hey hey, we don't judge these days.

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[Ron]

Because you aren't jaded on the subject at all.  

To be aware and observant is to flirt with being jaded.

I’ve certainly not been part of the solution.

Yet, neither do I kid myself with rationalizations of my past behaviors, nor have I adopted a morality/philosophy that excuses my past behaviors.

Strong marriages = strong families = strong communities = strong cities = strong states = a strong nation.

Men and women whoring around undermines the family, the foundational unit of a strong nation.

[Scout26]

Yeah, I married that. Nothing like being responsible for your good time and hers.

This...

[Perd Hapley]

To be aware and observant is to flirt with being jaded.

I’ve certainly not been part of the solution.

Yet, neither do I kid myself with rationalizations of my past behaviors, nor have I adopted a morality/philosophy that excuses my past behaviors.

Strong marriages = strong families = strong communities = strong cities = strong states = a strong nation.

Men and women whoring around undermines the family, the foundational unit of a strong nation.

This kind of judgmental moralizing will destroy the Republican Party. Except for that Donald Trump guy. We need you to just judge him right out of the party.