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bratch:
This is something that really bothers me and I'd like your take on it.

My GF and I have been together on and off for 6 years.  We've had some good times and some bad times like everyone.

During high school she was active in church and around school.  She had lots of friends.  After HS everyone has dispersed and she lost most of them.  She went to OSU for a year and made quite a few friends but transferred to a closer school 2 years ago that she commutes to solely for school. Since then she has had no friends of her own.  We have hung out at my fraternity around the guys there.

The last few months have been up and down with us being "apart".

We often went to the fraternity because she didn't like sitting at my house.  While there she hung out with the guys often with me playing second fiddle.

During a bad spell she started talking with an alumni who graduated a couple years ago but still hangs around.  She had always talked to him but it got more serious.  They kinda dated a little while until he got some other girl pregnant.

Since school has started she has been spending quite abit of time there.  She often stays until 3 or 4 in the morning and has stayed there a couple times.  They call and invite her to parties and to go out with them.

Since this has started I have not been to the fraternity.  I have resigned from my office and have cut ties.  

Am I overreacting? Should I be understanding that they are the only friends she has?

Sorry to lay this on you guys but she has always been the one I've talked to about problems and my guy friends just want to go cause trouble if I mention it.

MaterDei:
Yes, you are over reacting.  You guys are both too good for each other.

Focus on school and leave the high school antics behind.  I would dump both her and the frat, get a part time job to fill your spare time and focus on your studies.

Good Luck.

Para2:
Just my $.02...
If she's the one you've always talked to, try talking to her about it. Ask her up front if there is more than friendship going on over there. No accusations, people do "drift apart" especially as they go to different schools, different jobs, different life experiences. If you, or she, can't talk openly  about it, you may have your answer right there. If it comes to that, where you're not the only fish in her sea, so to speak, remember, She's not the only one out there, either!

SpookyPistolero:
What MaterDei said.

At the college level it is way past time to leave this kind of stuff behind. It would be hard to imagine the relationship surviving in the long run: if you have trouble making it stick over such a long period in the very beginning of your relationship, why would it be better in six years?

Good call getting out of the Frasority. The people in those still require living in a 'clique' to survive, just like high school provided them. I will hold my tongue on this point other than that.

Study twice as hard, get a job, or work more hours at the job you have now. Make yourself a future, and eventually, along the road in life, you will meet someone that makes you realize how silly all this stuff really was. I promise.

-Spooky

bratch:
We have talked about it.  She knows I'm not fond of the situation but tells me she can't take sitting at home every night either and they are her only other firends.  I won't ask her not to go over there mainly because she has noone else.

She tells me there is nothing going on.  I believe her but also believe she is a litle niave in believing they see her as just "one of the guys".

Thanks guys

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