Many "Self Serve" stations DO offer to pump fuel for the disabled too.
That's been my experience, pretty much all of them do, as long as you hit them up when they have employees there.
On the videos -
The couple I watched showed the people yanking the
still pumping nozzle out of the car.
Seems stupid to me, though understandable in a panic. My calm self says 'leave it IN the car, but trigger the release so it stops pumping'.
My reasoning is fairly simple.
As long as the nozzle is in the car, it's blocking most of the path down to the tank of gasoline. If I pull it out, I'm spreading liquid gasoline around a fire, on my car/truck and down to the ground, all in the open with plenty of air.
The flame won't go too far down the line to the gas tank simply because if I'm fueling, I probably have a pretty full tank by the time of the incident and the fire will run out of O2 as it moves down, even if there isn't a flame arrester, which I figure there is.