I'm not going to argue that you or your wife haven't experienced these things, just sharing my own perspective - one which seemed underrepresented in this thread. I think people on this board (and others like it) can get themselves a bit worked up since it's kind of an echo chamber. I remember people calling Obama's reelection the end of America, that we wouldn't last another 4 years and even if we did he wouldn't allow power to be wrenched from his grasp. 
Same bullshit was vomited out about Reagan, H.W Bush, Clinton and G.W Bush. I've even heard it about Trump.
One thing to consider though, prior to Obama we didn't see government agencies (IRS, FBI)
openly weaponized and used against the opposition with impunity and then openly working to undermine the duly elected administration. We didn't see the left openly, with impunity and aided and abetted by the mainstream media blatantly lying, twisting the truth or outright making *expletive deleted*it up to attack the duly elected administration. You also didn't see people on the right side of the aisle openly working against US interests in foreign countries (Kerry in Iran). As far as I can see Obama and the left haven't quite allowed power to be completely wrenched from his grasp.
