Both are right, I think. Some people have it easier than others. Pretending they don't isn't helpful to anyone. Acknowledging that and trying to get past it can help all of us.
And I also believe thinking you can get ahead on other people's dime isn't getting you anywhere, either.
How's that for middle of the road, heh?
I grew up with lots of different kinds of people, most of them poor and a lot something other than white. It was never surprising to walk down the street and have someone yell out *let's not go there* or make other comments. I honestly do not believe the company I work for would hire a black person for any kind of job other than manual labor. I've had friends who have been told to leave businesses because of the color of their skin. Etc. These things bother me. They happen because I've seen them happen, numerous times.
I guess, as I've said before, I'm also a lot more understanding since I've been raising kids on one income/no child support, especially the time before I finished school. By doing this, I will always be behind the curve as far as where I should be in saving for retirement, etc. As I worked full time and went to school full time, while raising these guys, I'd be hard pressed to say I was lazy and back then would have kicked the ass of anyone else who dared to say so..if I wasn't too tired at the time. But the fact is, I'm never going to be wealthy, regardless of how hard I work. The best I can hope for is comfortable. And I'm good with that.
On the other hand, I've come to believe that the government is the solution to nothing. We all have a moral obligation, or I believe we do, to help each other. That means we decide who we help, but it also means we do it, even if its painful. It means we don't look away when we see things that are wrong, or we look away when people genuinely need help. It also means we make decisions about who we will not help. Those are hard, but they need to be made, and we need to make those decisions ourselves, not assign that job to a bureauocrat.
One of the biggest problems I have with the welfare system is that it allows us to ignore our fellow human beings and their needs. We pay our taxes, we expect the government to do what we should be doing ourselves, and can wash our hands of the whole dirty mess.