Just to clarify things -
I've never supported the Special Education tomfoolery, even when I've used/abused it to the hilt in order to get appropriate services for a kid in desparate need of a way to get to their 18th birthday without a lengthy felony record already attached, or some kid who would never otherwise be able to make it even in a structured group home and sheltered workshop. The "if it's part of his diagnosis it's a free pass" BS continues to be the educational system's excuse for demanding the money to "deal" with those kids but refusing to provide the meaningful services that would actually allow them to benefit from a public education.
In my professional career I've engineered sending kids to specialized facilities that provide the support services (no, not crutches and excuses) to help a kid learn how to either manage or be managed without harming others. It's been a few decades now since I did that sort of thing but I understand my name is still a dirty word with the three school systems I took to copurt to force them to comply with the laws about special education. That bothers me, because I only got four kids into those high-priced, specialized, residential programs halfway across the country, and took over two dozen kids out of "special education" and through a combination of decent mental health services (from the public MH system, amazingly), improved parenting (thank you, BB/BS volunteers) and the fear of Jesus thrown at all concerned by an excellent Juvenile Court Judge. I guess if you make the School Board cough up $300K for one kid for one year they get bent out of shape over not having the bucks to go to conferences.
I'd like to see the rules changed, but while the rules are still the rules everybody needs to follow them. And that does include Bannana Boy.
stay safe.