Thanks for all the suggestions.
First, I did have a license. What a @#$% racket. High fees, etc.
Second, I called the listing agent. Whoever said she was screwing her seller with bad service by not meeting me and promoting an offer was 100% correct.
Third, I could easily hire my own agent. And then what? What is that agent going to do that I can't do myself? I have been party to probably dozens if not hundreds of transactions as buyer, seller, agent, and mortgage broker. I have training or experience in contracts, finance, and construction. I have access to the MLS database. The contracts I write are clean: price, fast closing date, with contingencies for mortgage (hich I can always get) and inspection either yay or nay (no repairs required). What is the seller paying my agent 3% for? That is just money on the table that can be used to negotiate a lower price etc.
In general I have noticed agents are more willing to work with unrepresented buyers since they stand to make twice as much. They will tend to promote those offers over offers from represented buyers.
And no, she has not called me back yet.