A little update.
The kitten, "Alex" (female) is doing fine.
My daughter ended up with it. So, not only did I accomplish the earlier mentioned things, I also inconvenienced my daughter, who lives with my mother in law and the wife's 88 year old grandmother and my 5 year old grand daughter (5 generation spread in that household).
The cat tolerates my daughter, the bringer of food, spends her free time pouncing on my mother in law, Do cats have any other kind of time? and loves all over the grand mother and grand daughter