Allow me to quote your insult:
You DON'T have to deal with the repercussions of your principles here, unless and until yourself or someone close to you is raped, and has to deal with the fallout...
I made sure to be unfailing polite after that callous claim, given you have absolutely no idea how close some of us may be to deal with the fallout.
Now as to your other points:
>How is this "special rights"? Seriously: it's about "the same rights"
No, it's about "the same benefits". Governmental recognition is not a "right". Hence, it is special.
>Persecution complex? Although I'll agree: taken with a bunch of other factors, I can see how y'all might feel that way
So I'm just making it all up cause I'm paranoid... except, WAIT, you agree... but only after accusing me of being paranoid.
>And what societal benefit is there to Spoon and I having our relationship recognized by the state? There's a slew of benefits for us, but where does society get anything out of it?
You and Spoon form the basis for a family, the best (scientifically proven!11!1!1) circumstances for creating a stable environment for the raising of children. Children raised in a home without both a mother and father are more likely to: earn less, end up in jail, be addicted to drugs, end up on welfare. Now, you can argue that we ought to restrict the benefits of being married to parents who are married. However, the benefits exist because at the time the government instituted them, marriage and child-bearing were nearly inextricable. They are less closely related now, but the legacy benefits remain. Now, because individuals have no clue as to the original purpose of the benefits, they think they have no reason but bigotry. Much the same as...
>Example?
No fault divorce. It was claimed at the time that children would be far better off if mommy and daddy got a divorce rather than fighting all the time. Of course, there were no studies on this, simply what people "felt" would be better.
Since then, we've found that, no, children do FAR BETTER when mommy and daddy stay together rather than divorce even if they do argue. (Prior to "no fault divorce", the divorce that required cause would of course accept abuse as cause, in addition to infidelity and other such reasons.)
Today, the argument is: kids are strong, they will adjust. Of course they will, but we ought to set up rules that are in the best interest of raising children that will be well-adjusted. (And, please, don't accuse me of meaning something other than the characteristics I already mentioned.)
>Full faith and credit*. No state should be able to violate the rights of a group of people without due process, nor offer one group of people rights or privileges barred to another.
Yes, to some extent. There is, however, a limit, given the vast number of things recognized by one state and not another. Given this is a matter of some import that creates a great deal of argument, federalism is the better option. (Which is ALWAYS my preference.)
>How many states allow such? And how many states have been trying to get constitutional amendments to define marriage as "one man, one >woman"?
>And remember: I'd be fine removing "marriage" from all civil discourse, and having everyone going for the strictly secular bond to get a civil >union
The constitutional amendments are attempts to prevent the use of the judiciary to make changes against the will of the voters. My point was not about the number of states that allow such, but about the number of states that already have civil unions that still have significant pressure to grant "marriage" to homosexual unions. If it was only the same benefits, why does the push still exist? (Which goes back to point 1)
>You referring to "hate speech" and "hate crimes"?? If you are, I'm right there with you, actually.
I am. Not solely, though. I am referring to the "free exercise of religion" as well. I would likely not have a problem providing a service for a homosexual couple any more than I would for a couple living together. However, I have no right to dictate to the conscience of other Christians who feel they cannot rightly, to pick a specific example, photograph a homosexual "wedding" because it would violate their conscience and encourage sin.
And given how many so-called libertarians I've seen argue that you give up your right to exercise your religion if you open a business, I am very unlikely to believe the supporters of homosexual unions would allow any businessperson to exercise their religion openly (just do it in the privacy of your home and don't bring it out where other people can see it!)