I fail to see what spanking has to do with anything. If pain is the only way to get your 10 year old to behave, you waited about 8 years too long to do it, and/or have zero parenting skills now.
That's what spanking has to do with it. You're right that the kid probably needs a father more than anything else, and spanking is no panacea, but a few spankings earlier in life would have taught the girl a few lessons about authority, disobedience and pain; before she had to learn it from a cop with a taser.
On the subject of ten-year-olds in peak form:
There was a girl that we picked up on the Sunday school bus who'd throw fits from time to time. Violent fits that our sweet, Sunday school teacher ladies weren't prepared to handle, so they'd call single mom to come pick her up. One day, things got so bad they came upstairs to get the Marine and the Army vet (me) to take her out to the parking lot. We had to carry her. As in, both of us had to carry her - she was that wild.
We wouldn't let her come any more for a while, but she's much better these days.