Maybe the advanced civilizations out there are based on dark matter . . .
It's actually a distinct possibility. Dark Matter and Dark Energy seem to be the lions share of "stuff" in the Universe. We may be like insects skating on the surface of a pond. What we see, stars, galaxies, the vast structure of the Universe might not even be the "interesting part".
An analogy would be to think about how computing was usually depicted in Sci Fi, bigger and bigger and bigger. Few, if any saw how computing or the Internet is just slowly sublimating into smaller devices, our phones, our TV's, watches, our fridge. Even on the data center side, even while they're enormous, individual servers are getting smaller and smaller. At first, we didn't have "servers", mainframes, minis etc. then finally PC-like servers as we think of them now. Then the servers became rack mount, then U1 rack-mount, then blades, and now servers are virtualized. One powerful server running many virtual servers in software that all believe and act as if they were real individual computers.
Yes, like any analogy, it breaks down if pushed too far, but the point stands that much of our computing technology is now smaller than a pack of cigarettes, and many of the servers they connect to, from certain viewpoints, don't even physically exist anymore. So we already have some small hints that an advanced civilization may not need mega-engineering. To them Dyson Spheres, Ringworlds etc. is as silly and impractical as it would be for us to build vacuum tube mainframes the size of cities.
Imagine some new dark energy discovery, they finally find the particles, determine the energies and directions they're coming from... and there's evidence of engineering and artifice all around us in every direction we looked.
My gut feeling is that the races who've "made it", change so radically, that they operate beyond a need for mega-engineering like Dyson Spheres, or climbing the Kardashev scale to type II and III civilizations. They may operate on similar scales, but in paradigms we really can't detect. Even assuming that they have a strong altruistic and outreach drive to contact other civilizations, what would it accomplish? It would be like us time-travelling to the neolithic age, and magnanimously handing them an iPad. Would they even understand it? We'd probably just scare the hell out of them, and without the infrastructure of WiFi, or power outlets how useful would it be?
I suppose to continue the analogy, we could carefully design an indestructible solar-powered iPad embedded in a block of Lexan, and ensure it had the most dumbed-down UI ever, and it showed the neolithic humans videos of how to knap better flint tools, or jump-start writing and cave paintings.
But then, how do you know they'll use it as such? What if the Shaman appropriates the magic picture stone as a hat? Maybe it's the
best berry smasher they've ever seen? Or the flat surface of the indistructable caveman-outreach iPad makes it
great for scraping animal hides...