Never cared to do the whole giant dinner thing, never really did it growing up either.
Normally I would go out to a sitdown restaurant and have a good meal but I'll there are a whole lot of *expletive deleted* idiots in town for thanksgiving and the Parris Island graduation yesterday so I'm not going to fight the idiots in traffic.
It depends on the people and the cook.
My maternal family rocks in the people department. No matter the cause, those gettogethers are fun. The food can kind of go either way, but it's always good enough.
My paternal family is so so in the people department. They get along and it's nice, but not particulary amusing. The food, though, is pretty damn good. They all can cook, men and woman and they like to cook well. Not gormet or whatever fancy shmancy *expletive deleted*it, but good food cooked right.
My Dad's family is... Well, I think his SIL cooks once a year, on thanksgiving, and despite her yearly practice, it's not so great. The people are alright, but there are lots of awkward pauses and topics that can start hard feelings. So, it tends to end with someones (usually dads) bloodpressure going up.
My bosses are very similar to my maternal family in terms of attitude for holidays. Which is when the family (or whatever) gets together to celebrate, we *expletive deleted*ing celebrate. All drama, infighting and interpersonal BS is left at the door. You are there to eat and have a good time, and all conversation is kept to noncontroversial things or jokes and funny stories.
Plus, Louise can cook. The woman *expletive deleted*ing rocks the kitchen. Huge platters of everything, plus *predinner snacks that I can't *expletive deleted*ing spell and because I can't *expletive deleted*ing spell it I can't find it in the *expletive deleted*ing dictionary and this is really pissing me off!* and everyone stuffs themselves on lots of good food while having a good time.
If you can find the right group, it's worth while, but if you can't, meh, it's better to skip the crap and have a nice day to yourselve then suffer through a "holiday" for giving thanks when you just want to give someone a fist sammich.