Obama has been, at least publicly, the most gracious of the left in this defeat. His demeanor has surprised me honestly.
Me, too. The "don't be silent" quip was according to pattern, but aside from that, he's been surprisingly decent.
It's not without precedent, though. In 2008, he mostly left the race-baiting to his surrogates. At least, from what I saw at the time. It was a very racial campaign, but he let other people run that end of it.