Whoa. I assume you came from an ultra-orthodox family?
Well, they don't think they are ultra- anything, but yeah, I guess you could say that. My family was fairly liberal for the community though. We had a tv that we watched once or twice a week, and my brothers were in scouts.
btw - is it true that most Orthodox Jews hate Reform Jews? My brother told me that. Supposedly some girl he liked - liked him too, but she was told that associating with reform Jews was forbidden. He told me that his understanding was that some ultra-orthodox Jews view reform Jews as being worse than Christians. Some of them supposedly think that Christians are lost on their path, while Reform Jews know the path, but choose not to take it.
Yes and no. Orthodox Judaism does not, in general, make hate a part of its agenda. Most hate Hamas with a passion, but that's about it. However, they do strongly discourage mixing with outsiders at all, particularly the young people and the young women most of all. Youth groups like NCSY that encourage mixing Jews of varying levels of observance, even when it's for educational reasons, are looked askance at. Sort of "I'm sure they do a lot of good, but not in MY shul/school/home."
There is a concept in halacha of the "captive infant"--a Jew who has been raised from infancy in ignorance of the right path. Reform and Conservative Jews usually fit that category and they are granted broad latitude in the law. It is required to treat them with respect and kindness. The trouble is that irl this often result in simple condescension and a very patronizing attitude. There is also the wide and often correct perception that Reform/Conservative Jews are politically liberal and the vast majority of "yeshivish/chassidish" (aka ultra-Orthodox) are politically conservative. This does not contribute to mutual respect and understanding.
In fact, even I am rarely treated with outright hostility, and I do "know better". That is the status of one who has "negated the essentials"--that is, has been properly educated in the frum community but openly rejects it and chooses something completely counter to it with a full intellectual understanding of what he or she is doing. This status is pretty bad in halacha, and so the halachic work-around there is that most people who do such things are crazy and therefore still not responsible for their actions--just like the "captive infants". So, according to my former community, I am insane. This is a (rather dubious) kindness, because it allows them to not treat me like a complete pariah, but merely be distant in various ways, and give me no material support of any kind. The walls are high and thick, but they are allowed to see me from time to time.
So, no, isn't true that frum Jews hate non-frum Jews. It is true that they tend to have a very hard time getting along with them socially and in most instances don't want to, and that they regard non-frum Jews as a threat to the integrity of their community. The old Yiddish word for non-frum Jews was "frei". Non-frum Jews *are* much freer to do as they wish, and frum Jews don't want themselves or their kids subjected to those temptations.
And now back to your regularly scheduled cheerleaders-in-elevators thread.
I've known three personally. One is pretty cool; the other two fit every stereotype, plus extra heavy on the bitchiness.
