Hello all. I always seem to come here when I feel high and dry, but it's about the only 'support group' around for me. I have been really, really messed up since last night and don't really know what to do about it. I think this might be a very long post, so sorry in advance.
Basically, I was dating a girl, Krista, until I broke it off with her during the summer last year. The relationship had lasted about a year prior to that. I broke it off grudgingly because there were a couple of parts of the relationship that I didn't like, feeling that I was doing a lot of the sacrficing and work, and that other parts of my life were suffering from the relationship being a time sink. But then she kept calling and eventually I broke down and saw her again. Since then, we have been seeing eachother every week or two she would come by, hang out, and spend the night (but we've never done much).
About two weeks ago, I had my final exams and the sunday before them she dropped by and gave me a couple of cd's she made and a candle, just being friendly, we hung out and she left. Things were good. Then after I got out of school (a week after) she started giving me things I knew were excuses when I asked to see her. First she 'had to go to florida with her family for her bro's graduation', but then she didn't go. So then it was because 'she was sick', but she wouldnt let me come by to help her out and bring meds. I asked her what she had and she said 'all kinds of stuff'. Hmm... There were a couple of more things like this, and this week (two weeks after she last visited) I finally just texted her that I missed her and asked if I had done something to hurt her that made her not want to see me. But she replied just what I was hoping she wouldn't, that she was seeing someone else.
Now, I'm not at all an emotional person. Quite the opposite. I also really hate drama and this high school kind of stuff at that. I didn't do it even in high school. But I have known this girl and been at least 'hanging out exclusively' with her for over 2 years. When she told me that she was with seeing someone and made bad worries into reality, it felt like I had been ripped in two. These are relatively new feelings for me. The pain is still absolutely crushing me and I really can't think of anything else. I just want her back. Even after two years I was still always excited to see her, and now I might never see her again. Unless I were to ask her to get coffee just to chat, where I could only look at her from across a table like a goon.
One thing that does bother me, is how can she have started seeing another guy in less than a week's time after seeing me? Things were quite good that day. She has always been eager to see me and probably was as excited as me. Then she suddenly does a 180 into some other fellow.
I have no idea what to do. If I were reading my post from some other fellow, I'd tell him if it was 'meant to be' then sit tight and stop worrying about it. To go out and be with friends, to see other people. To go to the range. But she was my friend. She's the one I always waited to see and be with. I don't want to see other people. I can't move my feet out of the mud, I just keep feeling that hole in my chest.
I realize that heartbreak is not a unique experience, everyone gets it eventually. But I can do without the notions of 'everyone goes through it, move on'. Because I don't want to move on, I can't deal with my reality.
I think the pain gets worse with talking about it, so anyone got any thoughts? I don't know what to do. Maybe she'll quickly get over him and call me sometime. Maybe they'll fall madly in love and that will be that. I know how silly and juvenile this sounds and you can't make much of a comment when you don't know me or her, but does anyone have any thoughts other than token heart-break advice? I am really, really hurting badly here (which is more rare than you know) and my blues cd's are getting hot to the touch.
Halved and hating it,
TooSadToCry