I don't understand what you are actually saying here. Can you explain?
When people have moral-imposing hissy fits, we get Civil Wars. The Civil War was avoidable by allowing technology and evolution of the economic environment to do its thing.
Similarly, abortion has exploded in popularity as a service, for two reasons:
1. Medical advancement has made it a very safe procedure for the mother (previously it was extremely dangerous and practiced by people with dubious medical backgrounds)
2. Destruction of the nuclear family and established common moral centers. Particularly the growth of the public school system.
For the record: I hate abortion. It's a vile practice, I won't date anyone who has ever had one, and I would feel betrayed if anyone I was dating had an abortion while dating me. It's a conversation I have with anyone I date if the relationship appears to be worth more than a few dates.
Abortion is not needed, if people use the following things, though:
1. Condoms. Duh.
2. The Pill. Duh.
3. Morning After Pill, if #1 and #2 aren't in place.
Some religious fundamentalists have a strong dislike for all of the above, and some only have a dislike for #3, seeing it as different than 1 and 2. #3 just makes the uterus chemically incapable of allowing implantation of the fertilized egg into the uterus walls, and I think it also may do something to discourage conception in the first place but I'm not sure about that.
While I find abortion disgusting, the notion of a zygote of blastocyst not being allowed to find ground to attach to the potential mother is not that big of a deal. Before it implants in the walls, it's still usually a single cell.
So, science is helping in this regard.
Also, I'm a child of a broken marriage. I've seen what damned smelly hippies do with their repercussionless lifestyles. The current out-of-wedlock numbers will self-correct, much like political numbers also self-correct. The dirty unwashed hippie period marks a generation of unimaginable decadence. While John Adams was an authoritarian statist putz of the 9th order, this quote of his is rather pertinent:
I must study politics and war that my sons may have liberty to study mathematics and philosophy. My sons ought to study mathematics and philosophy, geography, natural history, naval architecture, navigation, commerce, and agriculture, in order to give their children a right to study painting, poetry, music, architecture, statuary, tapestry, and porcelain.
And those children that studied poetry and music, had children that studied pot and LSD and Bob Dylan. [/shudder]
We'll revert to a generation of people that study the fundamentals, to rebuild the base.
However I will not condone the use of the State to commit murder in the name of selective moral compasses, even if they happen to be coincidentally in tune, or close to tune, of mine.