MechAg94:
Just don't drink the water in the finger bowl, even though it may have a lemon slice or other aromatic thing in it. Très gauche !
See also:
https://www.wonderfulinfo.com/finger-bowl-true-story/
Oh, and the correct term for "barbarian" nowadays is "deplorable," thanks to Mrs. Clinton.
Terry
I am reminded of a guy I heard say that every generation is a potential barbarian invasion. It is up to parents to teach them to be civilized members of society.