Car vs. Love

[Winston Smith]

So I'm about to buy a car on the cheap from a friend. Easily a 2500/3000 dollar car for 500.

But this girl that I have a history with and still feel love for is in france. Lonely. I think it's mutual. The love. And. well. The loneliness.

And while I don't live my life in a fake bubble in a imagined reality, I kinda would like to make a gesture and do something really grand and huge and show how I feel. And visit her.

I dont have any illusions. I dont want to marry her. I'm not really planning out my romantic future at this age.

So I'm thinking about reselling the car and flying over there this summer.

I'm only young once. And how many cars are out there?

But. What if it doesn't work. What if again the second we get close we get scared?

But. We have grown up.

etc
etc
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So.

What to do?

Anyone else have a quandry like that? What'd you do?

[Dannyboy]

If you still dig her, go for it.  You'll be able to find another car.  Besides, who knows when you'll get another chance to go to France.  Yeah, they have shitty gun laws and are just this side od socialists but who cares?  They have a great history and lots of stuff to see and do.  Where in France is she?

[Winston Smith]

Biarritz. Near Spain.

[doczinn]

Go. If you don't you'll wonder for the rest of your life if you should have. If you go, even if it doesn't work out, you'll know.

[Dannyboy]

Biarritz?  In May-June?  Hell, yeah.  If it doesn't work out with her, you have all kinds of good looking girlies on the beach.  I say go for it.  But that's just me.

[Iain]

I spent a fantastic 10 days in Biarritz/Irun/all over the border region of Spain a few years back. Good times. Go.

[Bogie]

Keep the car, and there are cheaper ways to go to Europe.
 
Your friend is probably selling the thing to you with the assumption that you'll get good use out of it. If you turn around and do a profit on it, your friend is going to be disappointed, and feel used. Not a good thing.

I know a cat who gave his kid a pair of nice old-school speakers. Kid traded 'em for a pair of flashy piece-o-crap bling-bling speaks... $500 worth of stuff for something I wouldn't buy for $50. Kid didn't appreciate what his ol' man did, because hey, they weren't all shiny. They're not communicating...

[BozemanMT]

The big romantic jesture never works.  Ever.
Women don't fall for that stuff.  
Women need constant nuturing, it's not like guy think where one big gesture means a lot.  To a woman, a post it has the same emotional value as a car.
You might think I'm full of it, but those married for longer than I will speak to my wisdom.
Get the car, write the girl but don't do stupid things.
She's obviously not THE ONE because you are conflicted.  You'll know when she's THE ONE.

[Antibubba]

And hey, you can ship a Citroen back; you'll be the only one around that has one.

[Dannyboy]

I don't know how I missed the part about reselling the car.  That's a bad idea.  I thought you were talking about a choice between a plane ticket and the car.  Disregard my advice, especially if the guy's a good friend.

[Guest]

Bust yer ass and earn the extra scratch for the ticket if its that important to ya. 2 jobs isn't as hard as it sounds when you know its only briefly.  short order cook pays decent and you get to keep bizzare hours.  and they usually don't expect you to work there for very long anyway.

save the cash, get the ticket, correspond lots between now and then ( Its impossible to put a value on handwritten letters, shipped good ol' snailmail, to france make sure you pay the extra so it doesn't take 6 weeks to get there) AIM doesn't count as correspondence, BTW.   Who knows, you might get laid.