I honestly find it a bit offensive when someone referee to my wife as my "partner". If you want to refer to your spouse-like-friend as your "partner" that's fine. I'll even refer to such a couple as partners. But I'm "married" and that has meaning far beyond being simply partners. Being a husband is a much larger commitment than being a partner. As is being a wife.
It's hard or an outsider to read your mind as to preferred terminology. I'd only be offended if it were repeated after your preferences are known or it is being used pejoratively. And it's sort of become a part of the common parlance anyhow.
I have issues [with] the Libertarian side, but on this topic I'm with them. Get government out of the business of marriage, and return it to the religious roots it belongs within.
Well, there is a "business" involved, in terms of taxation, inheritance, insurance policies, health decisions, etc., as noted above.
Certainly two (or more) people can live together with no formal arrangements, but as soon as a child or a murder occurs, that changes the situation. It would be smoother, even in a loose arrangement such as "I'll pay the rent, you pay the utilities," if such things were worked out at least semi-formally in advance of the child or the murder.
My stance is that nothing should prevent two people from getting married in a religious ceremony, with that religion's internal requirements.
What I object to is that some of those internal requirements have bled over into civil requirements and the inherent natural freedom to choose one's partner has been.... <ahem, koff-koff> .... infringed.<smirk, eyeroll, quiet giggle>
Terry, 230RN
NOTE: I bring up murder only because of the tradition that a spouse can't be compelled to testify against the other party. I believe this is because of the concept that marriage confers a "unity" between the two, and one can't be compelled to testify against oneself, that is, the other half of the "unity." Or maybe Blackstone just thought it was a good idea, so everyone followed it.