My parents couldn't afford to send any of us (five) to school, and none of us paid our own way either.
Results:
- My older sister ran off to Taos with a tennis bum and later become a professional mooch, having learned to game the welfare system.
- I did a military stint, a decade of rehab and educational volunteer work, and then cross trained myself into computer programming; been doing that for more than 30 years.
- Younger brother did several years as a volunteer, worked as an electrician for a while, then launched a career as an investigator, currently a licensed PI.
- Youngest brother did a volunteer stint, learned electrical, built a career as a security/central vac/home theater/etc. installer.
- Younger sister worked retail for years & made okay money, then decided to do long-term volunteer, which she is still doing as a financial specialist.
Except for my older sister, none of us ever took a hand-out.
Wife and I could not afford to bankroll any of our kids in college either.
My own kids:
- One died.
- Oldest daughter finished high school two years early, worked in comms (law firm), personnel (PR firm), and construction (ran electrical & HVAC crews). Moved east and worked as exec for a health spa, left there and went to work for a private school. Now works (with her husband) at a private boarding school, and I reckon she'll be there for the duration.
- Son did a year of college, but had to drop out in his sophomore year because of the demands of his full-time programming job. He's still working as a programmer. Paid off his loans in under three years. He makes more than I do.
- Youngest daughter is the vagabond. Tried college, decided it sucked. Lots of low-paying "meh" jobs. Currently selling insurance in Hawaii. She is beginning to rethink her decision to "hate working with effing computers." Some years ago she showed a talent for Web design, like her brother. He stayed with it, she didn't.
Nobody living on welfare.
No crushing debt.
My wife has a degree (UNLV) in MIS & accounting. She opines that the degree has done virtually nothing for her. She runs a "remote executive assistant" business from home, and has for more than ten years -- and for six of those her income has outperformed mine. We paid off her student loans more than ten years ago.
Oh, and -- even without a friggin' degree -- I taught college classes (computer languages) for five years.
I no longer recommend college. I now recommend getting out into the business world and swinging whatever hammer you've chosen.
My personal experiences may have influenced this point of view. =D