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Title: Getting a new family member (or maybe he's getting us)
Post by: Brad Johnson on August 09, 2023, 02:41:52 PM
Acquaintances moved to a rural area near Austin and didn't want to take their cat because of the high coyote population. Unfortunately he decided to exit the operation as they were trying to leave town (there's a lot more to the story, some of which I'm still decidedly angry about, but not salient to this post). That was two months ago. A week or two back he showed up at one of their previous neighbor's houses and the neighbor called after having his chip read. They still don't want to take him to their new location so we agreed to take him.

Meet Raj


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He should be making his entrance today or tomorrow. We'll spend a few days getting him set up with food/water/litter box locations, general acclimation, and seeing how he does in a single-critter household. Probably take him for a general vet checkup considering he's been who-knows-where for the last two months.

Brad
Title: Re: Getting a new family member (or maybe he's getting us)
Post by: WLJ on August 09, 2023, 03:11:54 PM
Congrats on your new owner
Title: Re: Getting a new family member (or maybe he's getting us)
Post by: 230RN on August 09, 2023, 04:57:54 PM
Two months and still looking good?  I wonder if there's another family now looking for him.

Don't tell me his surname is Koothrappali.

Wife1 and I rescued a couple of cats and it turned out pretty good.  One disappeared long after we moved out to Colorado with three cats and we assumed an owl or coyote got him.

Title: Re: Getting a new family member (or maybe he's getting us)
Post by: Declaration Day on August 10, 2023, 04:18:12 AM
I'm glad he found a good home with you!

Also, I hate the "We're moving and can't (or don't want to) take our pet" excuse. If you don't consider your pets to be family, you shouldn't get them in the first place.
Title: Re: Getting a new family member (or maybe he's getting us)
Post by: K Frame on August 10, 2023, 07:37:03 AM
Pretty kitty!
Title: Re: Getting a new family member (or maybe he's getting us)
Post by: Brad Johnson on August 10, 2023, 09:27:06 AM
Well, he's home. Really thin but otherwise seems in good health. Pic above was his prior home and he's probably five or six pounds lighter than that now. Not skeletal thin, but very slender and definitely needs to put on weight. We metered food out to him all evening so he didn't overeat and make himself sick. Devoured every morsel. Picking up some weight-gain wet food today.

Apparently starving for attention, too. Stayed right next to us all evening. Loves head scritches. Found out the Band-Aid & Neosporin way that he hates his belly touched.

He seems to have settled right in, comfortable enough that he fell asleep on the end of the bed. Sprawled out on the carpet between us while we were getting ready this morning. No signs of distress or heightened alert, mostly just exploring. Used his litter box right away so we're crossing our fingers there will be no probs in that respect. Guess we'll know when we go home for lunch.

Brad
Title: Re: Getting a new family member (or maybe he's getting us)
Post by: HeroHog on August 10, 2023, 09:35:55 AM
He'll be fine. He's accepted y'all and his new home. If he used the litter box, you're golden unless he has stress or health issues.

Congrats to you both and thanks for taking him in!
Title: Re: Getting a new family member (or maybe he's getting us)
Post by: Northwoods on August 10, 2023, 11:44:14 AM
He’s probably already plotting your murder.
Title: Re: Getting a new family member (or maybe he's getting us)
Post by: WLJ on August 10, 2023, 11:48:36 AM
He’s probably already plotting your murder.

https://theoatmeal.com/comics/cat_kill
Title: Re: Getting a new family member (or maybe he's getting us)
Post by: Brad Johnson on August 10, 2023, 11:56:15 AM
He’s probably already plotting your murder.

He's already drawn first blood.

Brad
Title: Re: Getting a new family member (or maybe he's getting us)
Post by: 230RN on August 10, 2023, 12:22:52 PM
Good story.  Nice to hear.
Title: Re: Getting a new family member (or maybe he's getting us)
Post by: Parker Dean on August 10, 2023, 03:33:23 PM
Found out the Band-Aid & Neosporin way that he hates his belly touched.
Not necessarily hate but it IS a trap. Lying on their back innocently looking like they want a belly rub and then becoming all teeth and claws when you fall for it is one of their favorite games. On a positive note if they're on their back, or at least with their head upside-down,  it means they're pretty relaxed.
Title: Re: Getting a new family member (or maybe he's getting us)
Post by: Devonai on August 10, 2023, 04:45:18 PM
At the risk of offending Art's grandma, your "acquaintences" are world-class a-holes.
Title: Re: Getting a new family member (or maybe he's getting us)
Post by: Brad Johnson on August 10, 2023, 04:47:13 PM
At the risk of offending Art's grandma, your "acquaintences" are world-class a-holes.

Agreed. That's why they are now acquaintances rather than friends.

Brad
Title: Re: Getting a new family member (or maybe he's getting us)
Post by: WLJ on August 10, 2023, 04:51:34 PM
Not necessarily hate but it IS a trap. Lying on their back innocently looking like they want a belly rub and then becoming all teeth and claws when you fall for it is one of their favorite games. On a positive note if they're on their back, or at least with their head upside-down,  it means they're pretty relaxed.

Some cats love having their belly rubbed.
2 maybe 3 here you could rub all day and they're happy as a clam
Title: Re: Getting a new family member (or maybe he's getting us)
Post by: Brad Johnson on August 10, 2023, 09:01:47 PM
Did a full house UV light check this evening. No acccidents or dark-corner indications of territory-marking. Was late getting away from work so didn't catch it, but SWMBO said he jumped on the bed and immediately started snuggling when she got home.

*edit to add* About ten til 10:00 right now. We're both reading and Raj is curled up at the foot of the bed, snoring. Yeah, pretty sure it's gonna work out.

Brad
Title: Re: Getting a new family member (or maybe he's getting us)
Post by: JTHunter on August 10, 2023, 11:15:27 PM
Brad, for some reason, no picture showed up.
But if he's snoring on the foot of your bed, you're doing something right.
  ;)
Title: Re: Getting a new family member (or maybe he's getting us)
Post by: Brad Johnson on August 21, 2023, 04:46:25 PM
Just short of two weeks on and all is well. He's started spending more time exploring than hiding under the bed. Weight is back to near perfect and he has normal energy levels. Last couple of days he's gotten progressively more playful, too. Vet check on Friday, same clinic as his previous owners. Vet said everything looked good.

Loves his head scritches but not a lap kitty. At least not yet. Can pet him on the head and back all you want, but do not under any circumstance touch his lower leg or paw. No rowl, no growl, no hiss, just ZAP! and you're bleeding. A lot. No love bite or playful nip, this. It's a full-one Leave Me The Hell Alone! chomp. I have two sets of fang marks to prove it. Deep ones. I figure something happened to him in the past so I'll see if we can't slowly desensitize him. Can't have him laying into everyone who wants to love on him, especially my parents. Otherwise he's super laid-back, usually hanging out on the floor somewhere near where we are.

Brad
Title: Re: Getting a new family member (or maybe he's getting us)
Post by: K Frame on August 21, 2023, 05:50:56 PM
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Title: Re: Getting a new family member (or maybe he's getting us)
Post by: HankB on August 22, 2023, 08:51:39 AM
. . .  No rowl, no growl, no hiss, just ZAP! and you're bleeding. A lot. No love bite or playful nip, this. It's a full-one Leave Me The Hell Alone! chomp. I have two sets of fang marks to prove it. Deep ones.  . . .
That's just one more reason I'll never own a cat - I wouldn't tolerate any animal that bit/clawed me or a family member, it would be put down immediately.
Title: Re: Getting a new family member (or maybe he's getting us)
Post by: WLJ on August 22, 2023, 08:55:29 AM
That's just one more reason I'll never own a cat - I wouldn't tolerate any animal that bit/clawed me or a family member, it would be put down immediately.

None of my cats will do that.
One of the biggest mistakes people make with their cat is they use their hand to play with him/her and all that does is teach them it's okay to attack you or your hand, it' a toy. They're probably just doing what they were taught to do.

Title: Re: Getting a new family member (or maybe he's getting us)
Post by: Brad Johnson on August 23, 2023, 09:49:54 AM
Well, last night we had a small first that's actually a really big thing.

Raj stays close to us, but usually somewhere nearby on the floor or a chair. He'll take all the head scritches we can throw his way, but it's at arms length rather than snuggled in your lap or next to you in bed. He's jumped up with us of his own accord maybe, oh, three or four times at most. We can put him on the bed or couch and he'll stay for a few minutes, but it usually doesn't last long. We watch TV in the basement and he'll follow us down, but it's usually for just a few minutes of nosing around and then he's back upstairs.

Last night it was more of the same, or so we thought. After an hour or so of being downstairs we saw the tip of his tail making it's way slowly around the end of the couch. Not unusual as he'll make occasional trips down to prowl. This time, though, the tail stopped for a few seconds and then a whole cat suddenly appeared on the couch with us. SWMBO and I looked at each other with "Wow!" expressions. We loved on him a minute or two, expecting him to jump back down at any second. Instead, he eventually plopped down between us and "Wow!" turned to "Awwwwww...". Stayed there for a good half hour, purring away. Even let me touch his paws a couple of times without incident.

That's the kind of progress we've been hoping for. Shows he's gone from being comfortable around us to feeling safe with us. It's a big acceptance and bonding step, especially for a cat previously in a longtime home and then abandoned for several months.

Brad
Title: Re: Getting a new family member (or maybe he's getting us)
Post by: fifth_column on August 23, 2023, 12:55:15 PM
It's always so gratifying when a critter warms up to you. We had a cat quite some time ago that didn't cuddle with anyone except my daughter. He would only deign to sit on my lap when I sat down and drank a beer. He liked licking the condensation off the bottle for some odd cat reason.
Title: Re: Getting a new family member (or maybe he's getting us)
Post by: K Frame on August 24, 2023, 07:50:15 AM
Most animal people/vets say that it really takes anywhere from 3 weeks to 3 months for an adopted pet to really snap in and get comfortable with their new surroundings.
Title: Re: Getting a new family member (or maybe he's getting us)
Post by: Ben on August 24, 2023, 07:58:01 AM
Most animal people/vets say that it really takes anywhere from 3 weeks to 3 months for an adopted pet to really snap in and get comfortable with their new surroundings.

Steve took like 3 minutes.

Barney the cat, who was here first, took a might longer. I think I mentioned before that my first night here, I looked out the living room window and a cat was looking back in. He would run away when I went outside, then I started tossing him some chicken and he would then hang out without coming too close. Then suddenly one day, maybe a few weeks in, he just walked up to me while I was sitting on the porch rocking chair and he hopped in my lap like we were life-long buddies.  =)
Title: Re: Getting a new family member (or maybe he's getting us)
Post by: WLJ on August 24, 2023, 08:04:57 AM
Steve took like 3 minutes.

Barney the cat, who was here first, took a might longer. I think I mentioned before that my first night here, I looked out the living room window and a cat was looking back in. He would run away when I went outside, then I started tossing him some chicken and he would then hang out without coming too close. Then suddenly one day, maybe a few weeks in, he just walked up to me while I was sitting on the porch rocking chair and he hopped in my lap like we were life-long buddies.  =)

Rigel showed up one evening and I saw him walking across the patio and I was like "who is that?". Opened the door to take a closer look and he just walked in, "nice place, think I'll stay here". Found the food and then curled up to sleep. Been here ever since.
Title: Re: Getting a new family member (or maybe he's getting us)
Post by: K Frame on August 24, 2023, 08:37:31 AM
Steve took like 3 minutes.

Barney the cat, who was here first, took a might longer. I think I mentioned before that my first night here, I looked out the living room window and a cat was looking back in. He would run away when I went outside, then I started tossing him some chicken and he would then hang out without coming too close. Then suddenly one day, maybe a few weeks in, he just walked up to me while I was sitting on the porch rocking chair and he hopped in my lap like we were life-long buddies.  =)

Steve's situation was quite different. He wasn't being adopted from a different situation. He was being rescued from a situation in which he likely would have died.

He also very likely didn't have much experience with a previous family.
Title: Re: Getting a new family member (or maybe he's getting us)
Post by: RoadKingLarry on August 25, 2023, 02:46:50 PM
He's already drawn first blood.

Brad

Just establishing dominance.
Title: Re: Getting a new family member (or maybe he's getting us)
Post by: Brad Johnson on August 28, 2023, 10:04:43 AM
Just establishing dominance.

Yeah, he pretty well has us snookered into liking him.

Unfortunately, had our first emergency vet visit last yesterday afternoon. He'd been listless most of Saturday, not eating much and giving indications of generally not feeling well. I figured it was some form of transient malady and would go away within a day or so. First indication of something really wrong was yesterday morning when he didn't come meowing for his breakfast. He spent the rest of the day in corners and dark areas, constantly repositioning and not responding much to pets. We could tell he wasn't feeling well and probably had pain. Went to clean his litter box and noticed he hadn't done anything in it all day. That's super odd as he is usually a poop and pee machine. When he started panting we knew it couldn't wait until this morning.

Went to an after-hours vet and glad we did. Turns out he had a mild UTI combined with a huge abscess around one of his rear paws. The vet confirmed the UTI almost immediately but only discovered the abscess when they turned Raj over to do a bladder draw. Apparently it ruptured all over the place and stunk to high heaven. A slow-release antibiotic, round of pain meds, and $550 later, he was released with instructions for us to watch him closely. Vet said if we'd waited until this morning there was a better than 50/50 chance he'd have gone septic, but thought we'd caught everything in time.

We got almost immediate confirmation of improvement. The first thing he did when we got home was head straight for the food & water bowls, then a litter box visit. Slept for several hours without repositioning so we knew he was much more comfortable. This morning he was up with the alarm, yowling for breakfast and doing his usual thing of hanging around during morning get-readies. Even insisted on a long session of head scritches. His toe is still noticeably swollen with light drainage, but it doesn't seem to be bothering him. We were sent home with an e-collar, but we're holding off since he's not chewing anything and the collar would only stress him more. Plus, I'm not sure we're brave enough to try getting it on him. After breakfast and scritches he went straight to his favorite corner, curled up in a contented ball, and immediately went to sleep with no obvious signs of pain or distress. Poor little guy got well and truly run through the wringer yesterday, but seems on the rebound. SWMBO took the day off to watch him but so far it appears everything's gonna be okay.

Brad
Title: Re: Getting a new family member (or maybe he's getting us)
Post by: WLJ on August 28, 2023, 10:10:07 AM
UTI? What are you feeding him?
Had on and off problems with UTIs and bladder crystals in several of the cats until I switched their food to Iams and haven't had a problem since. Many of the cat foods out there just aren't balanced right for cats and they mess up their urine Ph.

Of note after going to a somewhat more expensive food I noticed they eat less of it, I guess due to being more satisfying, so the cost per month actually stayed pretty much the same.
A 25lb bag of Purina Complete would last ~2 weeks. A 25lb bag of Iams Indoor about 3 weeks. Plus they slimmed down and even their fur is softer.
Title: Re: Getting a new family member (or maybe he's getting us)
Post by: Brad Johnson on August 28, 2023, 10:29:12 AM
Same food he got at his previous home.

Doc said there's a good chance the UTI is related to the drastic diet changes of going from housecat to three months on his own and back to housecat in rapid succession. We gave the vet an exact description of diet and feeding schedule and she approved, but said if another UTI shows up we may need to look at food changes.

Brad
Title: Re: Getting a new family member (or maybe he's getting us)
Post by: Brad Johnson on August 29, 2023, 09:42:38 AM
Much improved, especially since the antibiotic kicked in. Swelling is down considerably. If you didn't know the toe had been swollen before, it's unlikely you'd even notice. Litter box frequency and amounts seem back to normal. He still favors the foot a bit if he jumps off something, but otherwise seems back to normal.

Had another big step last night in him accepting us as family. We spend a lot of time in the basement watching TV. He's now regularly downstairs with us, but usually curled in a ball on the first step with the occasional trip to the couch for head scritches. A couple of times he's jumped up between us and stayed for a while, but only as a "be close" thing, not a "snuggle in tight" thing. Last night he jumped up and we fully expected more of the same, which we're very okay with, only this time he came straight to my lap, curled up, and reached up with his paw to touch my cheek. Closed his eyes and commenced to purring contentedly. He didn't stay long, maybe 10 minutes, but that was enough. Damn near cried because it reminded me so much of Minnie, the loveable hellion who had me wrapped around her paw for 17 years.

Brad
Title: Re: Getting a new family member (or maybe he's getting us)
Post by: Hawkmoon on August 29, 2023, 12:20:43 PM
Congratulations on your promotion. You have gone from being tolerated to being accepted.
Title: Re: Getting a new family member (or maybe he's getting us)
Post by: K Frame on August 29, 2023, 12:28:00 PM
Glad to hear that the little guy is doing better.
Title: Re: Getting a new family member (or maybe he's getting us)
Post by: Brad Johnson on September 05, 2023, 09:22:46 AM
Pretty sure he's decided this is an okay thing.



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Brad
Title: Re: Getting a new family member (or maybe he's getting us)
Post by: Brad Johnson on September 06, 2023, 04:03:38 PM
Today marks four weeks since we brough him home. I've always heard it takes about a month for cats to acclimate and start considering new places/people as home & fam. That looks to be the case here. As of a few days ago he's following us around pretty much constantly, if not directly underfoot then at least close by. Over the weekend he really got into joining us for substantive snuggles while we were couched up watching TV. He's even gotten to where he'll pull your hand in for gentle "pet me more" love nibbles. Can pretty much touch him all over now, at least in the context of gentle pets. Certain places still get a warning rowl, especially if he's startled, but sans the hissing, bitey thing.

Little turd did a 180 on food, though. We tried a host of wet foods and finally found one he would damn near knock you over getting to. Gave him a spoonful or two each morning as a treat with his kibble. Saturday he decided he no longer liked it. Won't even sniff at it any more. Of course, it was the day after we'd popped for a whole case. *sigh* I'll take it back to PetSmart and see if they'll credit towards other things. Thankfully, he hasn't turned up his snobbish nose at the kibble brand. Eats that plenty well, as the daily bag of litter box screenings will attest.

Health seems back to 100%. No signs of anything other than being a lazy housecat. Only thing we've noticed is he doesn't have the typical desire for being on high places. He'd rather curl up on the floor against a wall or chair, usually somewhere with a bit of shelter or structure around it. His favorite spot is under one of our side chairs, the kind that has an exposed ankle-height perimeter bar and no dust ruffle. He loafs up right in the center and just sits there, napping. We figure it's because he spent several years in a home with large, active dogs and the dogs couldn't reach places like that. He could get some relative peace and quiet while still being able to see what was going on in the room.

Brad
Title: Re: Getting a new family member (or maybe he's getting us)
Post by: JTHunter on September 07, 2023, 05:23:50 PM
Health seems back to 100%. No signs of anything other than being a lazy housecat. Only thing we've noticed is he doesn't have the typical desire for being on high places. He'd rather curl up on the floor against a wall or chair, usually somewhere with a bit of shelter or structure around it. His favorite spot is under one of our side chairs, the kind that has an exposed ankle-height perimeter bar and no dust ruffle. He loafs up right in the center and just sits there, napping. We figure it's because he spent several years in a home with large, active dogs and the dogs couldn't reach places like that. He could get some relative peace and quiet while still being able to see what was going on in the room.

Brad

Sounds like one smart cat.  =D
Title: Re: Getting a new family member (or maybe he's getting us)
Post by: Brad Johnson on November 03, 2023, 05:49:43 PM
He's decided this is a pretty sweet gig.


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Brad
Title: Re: Getting a new family member (or maybe he's getting us)
Post by: WLJ on November 03, 2023, 06:03:45 PM
When I saw that Junior, Rigel's brother* that showed up a couple of months after he did, was curled up almost the exact same way with me while I use the laptop in bed.

*100% sure they're brothers, one they almost twins, two the way they greet each other, and three I actually found out where they came from.
Title: Re: Getting a new family member (or maybe he's getting us)
Post by: HeroHog on November 04, 2023, 01:14:13 PM
Awwwwwwww!
Title: Re: Getting a new family member (or maybe he's getting us)
Post by: Brad Johnson on February 13, 2024, 05:22:58 PM
Everyone is settled into a nice routine, but it got interrupted a bit today. Infected anal gland. I've seen it in dogs but this is the first time I've dealt with it in a cat. He's been acting like he wasn't feeling well the last day or two. Not like before when he had the double-whammy of paw abscess and UTI, but enough to tell. Saw a bump on his behind during lunch so off to the vet it was.

Poor little guy got his butt shaved, lanced, and slathered in heal-em-up cream. Pumped him full of antibiotics and anti-inflammatories. First thing he did when he got home was head to the water and food station, a very good sign as he'd not been doing much of either the last day or so.

The last pic above continues to be the usual situation. Plus, he's chilled way back on the whole bitey scratchy thing now that we're all in a groove and used to each other's triggers.

Brad
Title: Re: Getting a new family member (or maybe he's getting us)
Post by: K Frame on February 13, 2024, 07:02:36 PM
Poor guy! I'd never heard of that in cats, either.