The only other question I would mention is who causing the real wear and tear on the roads? Is my F150 pickup really putting wear and tear on the roads? If you compare it to the heavy dump trucks and 18 wheelers, I don't think so.
Of course it's putting wear on the roads, and more than a lighter vehicle. How much, though, depends on the road design.
So, spend more to design a road to handle max weight big rigs, and it'll take less wear from pickups. Spend less on a residential street that shouldn't see more than a few large commercial vehicles a year, and it'll be torn up by pickups in a decade or two. Otherwise, residential streets in places where frost heave isn't an issue would last 50+ years with no maintenance.