I'd get the hell away from her, if that's how you feel. The kid seems smart enough to understand.
Here's something I saw on TheHighRoad.org and saved it in my personal collection, seemed like sound advice:
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My ex threatened to slam her face into a door frame until her face was black and blue then call the cops and tell them I beat her.
Shook me up good.
I then reminded her that her little sister had two children by a man that wasn't her husband WHILE she was married. The poor slob thinks they're his kids. I told her I would pay for the paternity suit(s) if necessary to blow her family relationships and happiness all to hell and back.
The best advice you can take is to get your own attorney, and remember these few simple things :
1 - IT'S OVER. No going back, fixing or saving the marriage - PERIOD.
2 - At this point, it is a game of cat and mouse to see who comes out with the most assets, kids etc..
3 - She is already screwing someone else. Yep, your little sweetie, has to have a shoulder to cry on, and the p**sy goes to anyone who will listen and say 'ooooh.. you poor thing'.
4 - Keep your mouth shut. Don't talk about the details, or how rotten you feel to ANYONE. Your attorney won't care if you feel bad, but he will damned sure do his best to cut another notch in his gunbelt with a win in court. That's how attorneys keep score - for most of them, it's an ego thing.
5 - If you have receipts or can prove ownership of the guns prior to marriage, send copies of it to your attorney.
6 - Don't talk to her or her attorney at all.
7 - If you have any mutual friends, just say 'yeah it's sucks... I still love her' or some such drivel, then change the subject or leave. You never know who your real friends are until times like these. If said mutual friends are a couple, the female will almost always side with her, the guy will keep his mouth shut and go along with whatever she says so he can keep getting laid. Nothing is more cancerous to ANY relationship, than having a woman telling another how bad men are. If things get really rough and they are called to testify, by that time your ex's story will almost certainly be perceived as fact by many of your so called mutual friends.
8 - Keep your dick in your pants. Don't go party, drink a few beers with the guys or date other women. A photograph of you laughing it up and having a good time will most certainly be presented in court as proof that you are a womanizer, alcoholic or were never home long enough to give your ex the 'attention' she needed to make the marriage work. You know, she always wanted to work things out, get counseling etc.. you were always out screwing around or getting drunk.
9 - Get over it. Don't look back. Any good memories you have weren't real. She was a bit*h then too, you were just too blinded by the nookie to see it.
10 - Get the hell off of the public forums. Anything you post (even joking) will be presented to a judge (or jury) whom most likely doesn't understand or find gun humor funny.
In short - shut up, lay low and get an attorney.
It's time to get in the game man, no avoiding it.
Rely on every instinct of self-preservation and survival that you have in you.
You are being hunted, by someone with vengence. The attorney has personal gain at stake and your ex has already sunk a pick axe in your chest. Trust the fact that yes, even your little snookums is trying to destroy you. Why doesn't matter, you have taken the first hit - don't take another.
Knowing full well you are now a target, what does your gut tell you to do ?
Play the game and don't give up any advantage. There are no winners in divorce, but someone will come out ahead.
Screw the guns, walk the line and take any advantage you can find. Don't provide the opportunity for them to get an advantage on you.
Good luck with it. It sucks for sure, but two years from now you will have a new wench, a couple of new toys and NONE of the headache afforded you now.
