Your last paragraph is a ridiculous argument.
Intentionally. It was ridiculous when you used it too.
If the action is wrong to begin with then making that action safer or cleaner or cheaper or reducing the impact to the people who commit it isn’t the obvious solution. If (as pro-abortionists like yourself believe) there is nothing wrong with abortion then of course it would be nice for it to be safer, cleaner, cheaper, etc.
What are they fighting back against? Men who don't have the same body parts, men who don't have the burden of carrying a child to term, I have no clue what it is personally like to have a child, how can I make a decision for that sex that does.
If, as you claim, they have already won and they are in no danger of losing then there is nothing to fight back against, is there?
Also, the gender discrimination you propose that says that one gender may not speak out about issues that primarily impact another gender seems to only go one way, doesn’t it? Would you demand a woman shut her mouth if she has opinions about issues that primarily impact men?
Finally, you presume that all women are in favor of legal abortion. They are not. Or would you demand they shut their mouths for having the wrong opinion too? All that said, if you believe that as a man it would be wrong of you to have an opinion about abortion, why can you speak up in favor of it?
There is no red herring, if you can separate yourself from your emotions and actually listen to the prochoice people, they are really advocating for ways to reduce the need for abortions while not making them illegal. Certain groups of people do not want sex education or ability for cheap/easy to get birth control because it goes against their beliefs, so everyone should be subject to those beliefs. What happened to if you don't want something, don't do it/buy it. Excuse your little Sally/Johnny from sex ed, but don't complain if they become teen parents or catch herpes.
As with any group there are diverse opinions. There are pro-abortion those who dislike abortion but want to keep it safe, legal, and rare. There are others who want to normalize it, expand it, and even celebrate it.
You keep pointing at the anti-abortionists who are also anti-birth control as the norm, when they are not.
As far as the “if you don’t like something, don’t do it”, that only applies when the action in question doesn’t have a direct victim. Hence you having no problem with making theft, rape, murder, illegal. As a pro-abortionist you either believe that there is no victim of abortion or the victim doesn’t matter compared to the mom’s preferences. An anti-abortionist believes that an unborn child can be a victim, and thus is deserving of societal protection.
So yes, red herring.