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Title: Dear Patient: please lay off the ass grabbing
Post by: MillCreek on October 15, 2019, 04:51:44 PM
28 year old male with no significant dental, medical or psychiatric history.  Comes in for his very first dental appointment to establish care.  On his way out after the appointment, he literally grabs the ass of the dental assistant and asks the receptionist for her phone number while obviously staring down the front of her blouse and licking his lips.  It was like some sort of cheesy movie.

So, I have someone who is old enough to know better, and does not have a medical/psych rationale for his bad behavior, such as dementia, TBI or the like.  Plus we are caring for him as a charity case and he is staying at the local mission.  Based on the number of voicemails the staff have left me, Mr. Patient is going to get my Mr. Patient you are fired immediately from the practice letter. 

Please don't raise your children to be ass-grabbers.
Title: Re: Dear Patient: please lay off the ass grabbing
Post by: Boomhauer on October 15, 2019, 05:02:10 PM
2x4, apply directly to the forehead

Title: Re: Dear Patient: please lay off the ass grabbing
Post by: WLJ on October 15, 2019, 06:14:29 PM
Bill Clinton?

oh, wait you said 28yr old
Title: Re: Dear Patient: please lay off the ass grabbing
Post by: BlueStarLizzard on October 15, 2019, 07:08:38 PM
You sure about the no mental health issues? Just because he doesn't have the medical history, doesn't mean he doesn't have it. You say he doesn't have the history, but does he have any evaluation in what history he has?

Not that he can be coming in and grabbing asses, just that you said he's old enough to know better and he's a charity case which makes me think part of the reason he could be in that situation might be psychiatric that hasn't been diagnosed or treated. I.E. maybe a referral to a shrink before firing him?
Title: Re: Dear Patient: please lay off the ass grabbing
Post by: Hawkmoon on October 15, 2019, 07:47:19 PM
Not that he can be coming in and grabbing asses, just that you said he's old enough to know better and he's a charity case which makes me think part of the reason he could be in that situation might be psychiatric that hasn't been diagnosed or treated. I.E. maybe a referral to a shrink before firing him?

Or maybe a referral to a shrink after firing him.
Title: Re: Dear Patient: please lay off the ass grabbing
Post by: BobR on October 15, 2019, 07:47:32 PM
You sure about the no mental health issues? Just because he doesn't have the medical history, doesn't mean he doesn't have it. You say he doesn't have the history, but does he have any evaluation in what history he has?

Not that he can be coming in and grabbing asses, just that you said he's old enough to know better and he's a charity case which makes me think part of the reason he could be in that situation might be psychiatric that hasn't been diagnosed or treated. I.E. maybe a referral to a shrink before firing him?

Nope, just fire him. Psych issues or not he does not know his boundaries. You shouldn't get a pass just because you may have "issues", maybe a less severe beat down. In my world as an ER Manager my Nurses would let me know immediately what happened and the next group of people he would have been talking to would be wearing badges.

bob
Title: Re: Dear Patient: please lay off the ass grabbing
Post by: 230RN on October 15, 2019, 08:14:37 PM
<Geriatric paranoia speaking here>

Watch it.  Some of these people can get pretty vengeful.  And they run around loose most of the day.

</Geriatric paranoia speaking here>

Bluestarlizzard:

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... which makes me think part of the reason he could be in that situation might be psychiatric that hasn't been diagnosed or treated.

I'm thinking the same thing.

Terry





Title: Re: Dear Patient: please lay off the ass grabbing
Post by: BlueStarLizzard on October 15, 2019, 08:35:43 PM
Nope, just fire him. Psych issues or not he does not know his boundaries. You shouldn't get a pass just because you may have "issues", maybe a less severe beat down. In my world as an ER Manager my Nurses would let me know immediately what happened and the next group of people he would have been talking to would be wearing badges.

bob

*shrug* I'm not saying it gives him a pass. I'm saying his behavior could indicate an underlying problem, and for health care professionals I would think that falls into the spirit of obligated to report, even if it doesn't hit on legally required to report.
Title: Re: Dear Patient: please lay off the ass grabbing
Post by: BobR on October 15, 2019, 08:43:29 PM
The thing is. report to whom? Unless he is a danger to himself or others even reporting it won't accomplish a thing. A mental health Professional will come out to see him and say there is nothing we can do. That is the state of mental health care in WA state. Everyone makes a big deal out of saying we need to have more mental health care for the homeless but you cannot force them to seek or obtain mental health care. If and when they become a danger to themselves or others they will get into the system, maybe.   =|


bob
Title: Re: Dear Patient: please lay off the ass grabbing
Post by: Perd Hapley on October 15, 2019, 08:56:14 PM
It sounds like he needs a stern talking-to from a company that deals in shaving products.
Title: Re: Dear Patient: please lay off the ass grabbing
Post by: BlueStarLizzard on October 15, 2019, 09:23:33 PM
It sounds like he needs a stern talking-to from a company that deals in shaving products.

 :laugh:
Title: Re: Dear Patient: please lay off the ass grabbing
Post by: BlueStarLizzard on October 15, 2019, 09:26:04 PM
The thing is. report to whom? Unless he is a danger to himself or others even reporting it won't accomplish a thing. A mental health Professional will come out to see him and say there is nothing we can do. That is the state of mental health care in WA state. Everyone makes a big deal out of saying we need to have more mental health care for the homeless but you cannot force them to seek or obtain mental health care. If and when they become a danger to themselves or others they will get into the system, maybe.   =|


bob

"spirit of"

You have a patient with a possible mental health problem and you don't think you have any obligation to even make any effort to see that it gets checked out?  =|
Title: Re: Dear Patient: please lay off the ass grabbing
Post by: MillCreek on October 15, 2019, 09:29:07 PM
Having spoken with the dental team involved, we are confident that he has no obvious psychiatric pathology, and he is just being a sexist ahole.  Such people exist.
Title: Re: Dear Patient: please lay off the ass grabbing
Post by: BlueStarLizzard on October 15, 2019, 09:38:07 PM
Having spoken with the dental team involved, we are confident that he has no obvious psychiatric pathology, and he is just being a sexist ahole.  Such people exist.

True. And being an ahole could also answer the question of why he's in his current predicament when it comes to his overall living situation.  =)
Title: Re: Dear Patient: please lay off the ass grabbing
Post by: BobR on October 15, 2019, 09:40:43 PM
"spirit of"

You have a patient with a possible mental health problem and you don't think you have any obligation to even make any effort to see that it gets checked out?  =|

How would you do that? Hold him against his will until you can get him checked out? It doesn't work that way, even crazy people have rights. You can make referrals for him but you can't force it on him.

bob
Title: Re: Dear Patient: please lay off the ass grabbing
Post by: BlueStarLizzard on October 15, 2019, 09:51:37 PM
How would you do that? Hold him against his will until you can get him checked out? It doesn't work that way, even crazy people have rights. You can make referrals for him but you can't force it on him.

bob

I didn't say force it? Where did I say force it? My original comment was make a freeking referral! I would think you'd feel at least an obligation to just SAY something to the effect SOMEWHERE, that the idea had been considered and passed on to the patient with the offer of access to at least evaluation.

 ;/
Title: Re: Dear Patient: please lay off the ass grabbing
Post by: 230RN on October 15, 2019, 09:57:45 PM
Seems to me grabbing ass has to be legally some kind of assault.  There's your window of opportunity should you desire one.



Terry

Title: Re: Dear Patient: please lay off the ass grabbing
Post by: MillCreek on October 15, 2019, 10:24:39 PM
Seems to me grabbing ass has to be legally some kind of assault.  There's your window of opportunity should you desire one.



Terry



In Seattle, the police don't respond, and the City does not prosecute, these sort of issues involving the homeless.
Title: Re: Dear Patient: please lay off the ass grabbing
Post by: brimic on October 15, 2019, 10:39:46 PM
Maybe its some weird form of tourettes that causes him to stare at tits and grab asses instead of vocalizing random profanities?

That would be one hell of a medical condition to have.
Title: Re: Dear Patient: please lay off the ass grabbing
Post by: 230RN on October 15, 2019, 10:39:54 PM
In Seattle, the police don't respond, and the City does not prosecute, these sort of issues involving the homeless.

Oh. Unwarranted assumption on my part.
Title: Re: Dear Patient: please lay off the ass grabbing
Post by: AmbulanceDriver on October 16, 2019, 12:50:20 AM
2x4, apply directly to the forehead



Repeat as necessary
Title: Re: Dear Patient: please lay off the ass grabbing
Post by: Jamisjockey on October 16, 2019, 01:45:36 PM
The thing is. report to whom? Unless he is a danger to himself or others even reporting it won't accomplish a thing. A mental health Professional will come out to see him and say there is nothing we can do. That is the state of mental health care in WA state. Everyone makes a big deal out of saying we need to have more mental health care for the homeless but you cannot force them to seek or obtain mental health care. If and when they become a danger to themselves or others they will get into the system, maybe.   =|


bob
Police. ass grab is sexual assault.
Title: Re: Dear Patient: please lay off the ass grabbing
Post by: makattak on October 16, 2019, 02:02:21 PM
Police. ass grab is sexual assault.

In Seattle, the police don't respond, and the City does not prosecute, these sort of issues involving the homeless.
Title: Re: Dear Patient: please lay off the ass grabbing
Post by: zxcvbob on October 16, 2019, 03:27:43 PM
In Seattle, the police don't respond, and the City does not prosecute, these sort of issues involving the homeless...

...because there's no money in it.
Title: Re: Dear Patient: please lay off the ass grabbing
Post by: RoadKingLarry on October 17, 2019, 09:22:10 AM
...because there's no money in it.

But if someone engages in self defense against such an act of agression by such a person, well then you have someone worth prosecuting persecuting...
Title: Re: Dear Patient: please lay off the ass grabbing
Post by: MillCreek on October 17, 2019, 10:51:24 PM
https://crosscut.com/2019/10/seattle-progressives-need-get-smart-crime?fbclid=IwAR2Q94BJp3TgyrB9cwQmYpDtROC0W6U9X3LQe3LkW2O3chRX0WMSBiPVW5o

An article about the current Seattle policy on low-level crimes.
Title: Re: Dear Patient: please lay off the ass grabbing
Post by: 230RN on October 17, 2019, 11:46:44 PM
^ From MillCreek's link above:

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Does merely backing off — letting people who commit low-level crimes more or less go on their way — lead to better human and social outcomes than vigorous prosecution? Many will argue yes; many others will say no. But what everyone should be able to agree on is that this, by itself, is not a politically viable strategy, at least not for long. In a time of deepening social crisis, with many people connecting dots, justly or not, between visible homelessness and petty crime, simple neglect invites a backlash.

An interesting point.  I believe we are seeing more people doing some dot-connecting in areas beyond merely homelessness and crime.

Truly, my suggestion ( Reply #16 ) that ass-grabbing opens the window for reporting it as assault was in fact based on the unwarranted assumption that the police would be allowed to do their job.

Silly me.

Terry