"Sperm Wars" offers some explanations as to the origin of, survival of, and hostility towards homosexuality. I am not certain if I agree with the book on that issue, but it does sound plausible.
My own attitude is one of recognition of their rights coupled with personal revulsion at the thought of the physical act. Certain rights should be accorded, even marriage, but just don't tell me any of it is natural. If indeed homosexuality is based on genetics that produces a brain biochemically opposite to the host body, then at best these people are unfortunate aberrations, on the same level as some other physical or mental deformity. They have my sympathy and assurances of certain rights, in exchange for my right to be publicly disgusted by it. In contrast, we now have a way-over-the-top in-your-face media coverage and political validation of an unfortunate aberration coupled with a strong passive-aggressive undercurrent of closet hatred. That is not a healthy state of affairs for a society.
People will face their sexuality more honestly and openly, if they stop worrying about what other people think about it. This principle goes beyond sexuality as well. For example, I am a hetero who also likes fine things and has an artistic taste and a (frugal) sense of style. More recently, I helped a ladyfriend set up and decorate her house (actually did most of it myself). As I predicted, her female friends immediately told her it was so pretty and stylish that I must be gay. Did that stop me from doing it? No. Does it prevent me from enjoying myself aesthetically? No. Why? Because I do not care what her friends think.
What I have realized in terms of my own sexuality is that while exclusively and strongly attracted to women in the sensual and physical sense, I definitely prefer the social and intellectual company of men. My own explanation is that many women are just so bitter about being women that they create a web of beliefs and attitudes to ameliorate that emotional discomfort. However, the same web annoys the hell out of somebody like me. Conversely, note that the hetero women most secure and relishing their femininity are the one that we men find virtually irresistible.
The funny thing is in general women do not even have it that bad. In fact, I'd argue that species-level biology favors them far more than us. On average, we get to do the tougher, dirtier, more dangerous jobs. In exchange, we might get some sexual pleasure, but there is not even a reasonable guarantee that the kids we raise are our own. Especially historically we have tended to have more personal power and wealth, but in the end, most of us spend it on a family, which is ultimately "her" idea.
Just read "Sperm Wars". You will not look upon the world with the same eyes.
