I'm having trouble with my wife over this. Thinks donald is a pig, if he gets elected women's rights will go backwards, her salary will go down, taxes will go up (but not with democrats), if hillary does not get elected it shows you have to have a dick to be president.
I usually don't even bring up politics with her, but she has been lately. And even why I try to deflect its my fault.
How should I handle this?
I remember seeing a site once that asked you all these questions and tells you which candidate is most fit for you. Maybe something like this. We can both do it side by side and see the outcome.
Although I have done it before and even if I changed 1 or 2 things that I think she might choose differently would not choose hillary for her.
It's difficult because if she REALLY thinks her "salary would go down as a woman if Trump is elected..." etc. that's
emotive reasoning. She's basing her decisions on generalized feelings, and mainstream media overviews. I mean, does she
really think her employer would go to her and say: "
Ha ha! Trump won. We're cutting your paycheck by 10%, take it or leave it you dumb broad!"?
It makes me wonder if she's got issues with her employer or managment that makes her feel that way, people or a work environment that makes her think this could actually happen? Is there perhaps a chauvinist "good ol' boys" club there running the show and she chafes against it? Could Trump just be a stand in or symbol to her that represents someone or something closer to home that irks her?
Frankly, I can sympathize, because in an election year when the choices admittedly aren't all that great, two main candidates that both have serious flaws, or potentially wasted "votes of conscience" etc. on third parties in years like this, when there's no "Great Communicator" like a Reagan or a JFK inspiring people, (hell, even Obama, as vacuous he is behind the oratory) people tend to vote
against things or candidates, rather than
for things or candidates. Admittedly your post is not a lot to go on, but I have a hunch her vote for Hillary is not so much "for Hillary" but against some injustice she herself feels she's suffering, or against someone or a group with which she has a personal animus towards.
Hell... think it could actually be
you ,never_retreat?
What exact policy does or would Trump advocate that would "lower her salary" or what law would he be signing that would do it? If she feels having a woman "break the glass ceiling" as POTUS is so important, does she really want it to be a woman as terrible as Hillary? Does she want the same stain that Obama has put on "First Black POTUS"? You can try to pin her down or make her examine her thinking with logical arguments like this, but you're just as likely to anger her more, and make her dig in her heels.
To "win" this kind of argument, you're going to have to
carefully dig, and find out what the real motivations are. She herself might not be consciously aware of them either.
But done right, asking probing questions that
display empathy for her views and feelings will probably go a long way whether she changes her mind or not. "Are there jerks at work who remind you of Trump?" etc. Although be careful. If done too overtly, the line between empathy and patronizing is a fine one.
https://www.isidewith.com/ is the website you're thinking of.
