And to be honest, I"m not so certain that that is a bad thing even when it's a woman on the trigger of the taser or pepper spray.
In the old days there were really only two ways to get someone to comply who was dead set on NOT complying -- beat the hell out of him with night sticks, or shoot him.
Mace, and later pepper spray, gave another layer on top of that, one that was inherently less violent.
Tasers are the same.
I think tasers and pepper spray can also go a long way towards protecting police officers from themselves, too, not just the individual they're trying to detain.
With a weapon that requires proximity contact, like a nightstick, it's not unknown for officers to continue to beat an individual far past the point where they're compliant. Emotions take over. No, not all officers are like that, or have had that happen to them, but it can happen.
Tasers and pepper spray are, in that sense, self limiting.