So yeah, I stand behind what I said. Given an option to live there or not, I'd choose the latter and tell an HOA to go suck eggs (I'd actually use more colorful language, but this is a family forum). I don't want to be that frog in a pot of rapidly warming water. It's no different than when I left the People's Republik of Kalifornia when they wanted me to register a good chunk of my gun collection with the state. I haven't lost a wink of sleep over that decision.
It is different in that a HOA is essentially a group of citizens binding themselves through a contract to abide by certain rules. In the case of CA, it is the state imposing its will. You can opt out of a HOA, by not living there in the first place, but not the state (short of moving to another state).
I live in an HOA and don't always like it, but I can't really complain because the rules were in place when I moved there.