If you don't mind me asking...what led to your son's endocarditis.
We will never know. He had never been sick. When he started spiking fevers off/on he would go to sick call, get handed some motrin and sent on his way is his version. He doesn't want me to see his medical records. I have a feeling that he did not go to sick call as much as he says. We can't even blame dental work, he didn't have any before the endocarditis. We did find out after his surgery that he had a bicuspid aortic valve instead of a tricuspid one. That is whht set him up for the endocarditis, I believe.
His issues were many fold. The surgeon was surprised he made it through the surgey afterwards.
He had his aortic valve replaced, a lot of the heart muscle around the aortic valve was so badly infected the surgeon elected to remove it. That included the valve, portions of the right atrium, including the AV node. That effectively cut of the electrical pathway from the SA node to the bundle of HIS. Without that his heart beat was anything but assured, so he got the pacemaker as a precaution. His atrial septum was also badly damaged, more cow tissue. One side of his mitral valve had become detached.
If he had not been in the Army where fitness was necessary, and young, he would have not made it as far as he did.
As far as his mental state, it screwed him up pretty good. To go from young and healthy to nearly dead in 9 weeks was pretty traumatic to him. Perhaps that is why he is the way he is now. I really don't know.
He will end up being one of those guys at the VA who live on disibility and his military retirement. That is if he ever gets motivated enough to go to the VA to get rated. His surgery was a little over 3 years ago and he was medically retired from the Army a little over a year ago. His mother and I visited him in Sept and he is doing fine, just lazy in our opinions.
Best of luck tomorrow. It sounds as though you have fallen in with a group of great people who do this not only as a job but because they like too. Within 24-48 hours you will be up eating and walking the halls.
bob