I think you are explaining your point of view just fine, but when you get to the nuts of it, you or they are still guessing or making assumptions. They do refine the ideas quite a bit to fit what they see, I'll give them that.
Well, infering based on evidence, which sounds way smarter.
The problem is the pace of mutation. At the time scales we live on, the only 'massive' changes we can see in a lab are in bacteria and insects. The problem is the argument is sort of rigged:
1. Changes to short lived species is microevolution and so is invalid.
2. Changes due to things like dogs and sheep aren't drastic enough (even between a wolf and a lap-poodle), and so are invalid.
3. DNA evidence showing common genetics between all life isn't valid.
4. Existing evidence of speciation between things like ring species isn't enough, so it is invalid.
5. The fossil record is using inference, and so is invalid.
6. Directly messing with genetics is man, not nature, and so is invalid.
It makes it tough to build a case for evolution when none of the given evidence is considered valid. Nowadays when I talk to people about this they usually say something like, "we need to see transition between kinds", but when I ask for specifics I don't get them. To me, if an animal can't breed with another animal, it stands to reason it is a different kind, right? So then why isn't speciation accepted in ring species or other cases?
I dunno.
We can stop now if you'd like though.