groom-to-be bails 4 days before wedding - bride sues

[AZRedhawk44]

Damn. Maybe spending 100k on the wedding alone set off alarm bells for the guy.

I'd call off a wedding that cost $100,000 too.  I don't want a 30 year mortgage to pay for the stupid wedding.

My way of thinking...$10k is MORE than enough for a wedding.

Anything more than that, and you're getting into little-girl-princess-idealized-stylized-fantasies-and-not-the-celebration-of-the-union-of-two-families-and-well-wishing-for-their-future territory.  You can't be 20-somethings and starting off your life together with $100k of debt.

If she's a trust fund heiress, then she can eat it.

If he's a trust fund heir and agreed to the costs initially, then he should eat it.

But if he just decided that she was nucking futs and realized it more and more as she demonstrated her inner Bridezilla... good for him.

[cassandra and sara's daddy]

big weddings are often the symptom of something wrong with brides mom. thats where the real sickness lies in my experience

[lupinus]

big weddings are often the symptom of something wrong with brides mom. thats where the real sickness lies in my experience

Heh tell me about it. I was ready to shoot mine. I'm still hearing how expensive five or so k was....all for crap she wanted provided by overpriced idiots she hired.

[cassandra and sara's daddy]

i once did a wedding for 125 folks,  vegetarian, for 625 bucks  grazing menu  and my labor was my gift to the bride. that included 2 agency waiters for 4 hours. though i was able to borrow the glasses plates etc

[Hawkmoon]

Well, whaddaya know?

http://www.illinoisdivorce.com/family_law_articles/breach_of_marriage_promise.php

Breach of promise actions sound more in the nature of breach of contract than tort law. Breach of promise lawsuits allow a jilted party to recover money, but the amount of recovery may be limited. ... Illinois law still recognizes such claims but, again, strictly defines and limits the amount of money a plaintiff may recover. Still, such lawsuits are viable. Indeed, in one 1995 case a jury awarded $178,000 to a wronged spouse and the judge upheld $118,000.

Also: http://law.justia.com/illinois/codes/2005/chapter57/2022.html

(740 ILCS 15/2) (from Ch. 40, par. 1802)
    Sec. 2. The damages to be recovered in any action for breach of promise or agreement to marry shall be limited to the actual damages sustained as a result of the injury complained of.
(Source: Laws 1947, p. 1181.)

    (740 ILCS 15/3) (from Ch. 40, par. 1803)
    Sec. 3. No punitive, exemplary, vindictive or aggravated damages shall be allowed in any action for breach of promise or agreement to marry.
(Source: Laws 1947, p. 1181.)

    (740 ILCS 15/4) (from Ch. 40, par. 1804)
    Sec. 4. Within three months from the date that the breach of promise or agreement to marry occurred, unless such breach occurred prior to the effective date of the act, any person who is about to commence any civil action in any court for breach of promise or agreement to marry shall give to the person against whom said action is to be brought, or send in a sealed envelope with first class postage prepaid and deposited in the United States mail to such person at his or her last known address, notice in writing, signed by the person who is about to commence said action, giving the date upon which the promise or agreement to marry was made, and the date upon which the marriage ceremony was to have been performed, stating the damages suffered by the person signing said notice and stating whether the person signing said notice is or is not still willing to marry the person to whom the statement is given. If the breach occurred prior to the effective date of this act the notice herein required shall be served within three months after such effective date.
(Source: Laws 1947, p. 1181.)

[roo_ster]

i once did a wedding for 125 folks,  vegetarian, for 625 bucks  grazing menu  and my labor was my gift to the bride. that included 2 agency waiters for 4 hours. though i was able to borrow the glasses plates etc

That is a handsome gift, IMO.

[vaskidmark]

But according to the laws cited, the bride-to-have-been cannot sue for emotional damages, which seems to be a portion of her pleadings.  (

740 ILCS 15/3) (from Ch. 40, par. 1803)
    Sec. 3. No punitive, exemplary, vindictive or aggravated damages shall be allowed in any action for breach of promise or agreement to marry.
(Source: Laws 1947, p. 1181.)

The jilted bride claims that by calling it quits, the groom "intentionally inflicted emotional distress" on her. She's reportedly seeking more than $95,000 from her ex -- money, she says, that she'd already spent on the wedding.

Buttitta ended up SUING HIM FOR $100 GRAND.

There's the dress, the rings, flowers -- Buttitta says she spent over $12,500 on those -- invitations, escort cards and a ton of other things that take up a whole lot of time and even more of your money.

So where's the bulk of the missing $87,500 coming from?  And will the court simply accept that blowing bucks out the wazoo for the purpose of being ostentatious is recoverable?

stay safe.

[cassandra and sara's daddy]

That is a handsome gift, IMO.


not as much as you think   she was quite the remarkable girl  part of a remarkable couple.  high school sweet hearts  went to same school to stay together. both worked in the kitchen as part of their financial aid. both made a commitment to "save themselves" for marriage and to the best of my knowledge lived up to it.  real nice kids hard workers.  stood up to some ridicule over their commitment to principle. it was one 14 hour day for me.  it was funny i told her what i would do for em early in her senior year.  told her if her mom wrote a check for the cost of the groceries and waiters i'd do the rest. her mom balked went and got estimates from some caterers  ridgwells amongst them  then came back to me with a much better attitude. over the years i've done 12-15 weddings like that. i'm too cash poor to buy a great gift but i pitch it to the parents tell em to give the saved money to the kids as a house downpayment. the places i worked let me use their plates etc. a nice wedding does not have to cost a mint.  says the guy who made his living exploiting people who didn't believe that.  its a crazy biz


oh yea   and veg functions are cheap 

[Hawkmoon]

But according to the laws cited, the bride-to-have-been cannot sue for emotional damages, which seems to be a portion of her pleadings.

I noticed that ... that's why I cited the law. She can't be much of a lawyer if she's suing on the basis of a claim that's specifically and explicitly barred by statute.

[vaskidmark]

I noticed that ... that's why I cited the law. She can't be much of a lawyer if she's suing on the basis of a claim that's specifically and explicitly barred by statute.

So when are we hooking her up with Ned? 

stay safe.

[BridgeRunner]

I noticed that ... that's why I cited the law. She can't be much of a lawyer if she's suing on the basis of a claim that's specifically and explicitly barred by statute.

I suspect she found a way to make the claim fit the law.  Creative drafting ftw.