"(is she a she or a he?)"
I think there is some confusion there. Her wife calls her her wife, so they are both wife? As for me, she/he made his/her bed, she/he can sleep in it. I don't seem to understand why she's/he's crying to America to save her/him, as she/he doesn't seem to like America all that much. The fact he/she plays for a women's basketball team is, nowadays it seems, not much of an indicator of her actual gender. As the old song goes changed up a bit for the times; "I don't want her/him, you can have her/him, she's/he's too fat tatted for me...."