I fully realize that what I post below is my personal bias, personal situation, and that not everyone can do it because of personal/family responsibilities or a host of other reasons. But... move.
We are at a point where social and geographic dichotomies will not allow us to live together. It's as simple as that, and I don't see any swinging of the pendulum back to reasonableness from either side.
I was vehemently complaining about California for 20 years before I moved. The first 10 of those 20 though, was mostly grumbling and griping. Had California leveled out and slowed down at that point instead of quadrupling speed, it is very likely I'd still be there, putting up with irritations and stupid regulations, and just grumbling and griping about them.
Where they went in the latter half of those 20 years left me no choice but to move. Even though I was born and raised in CA, and spent most of my life there, a resident long before a lot of the current whackos were even born, they don't want my kind there anymore. I am not welcome. That will never change. "I was here first" doesn't matter. There is a point where "stay and fight" simply becomes too exhausting. I applaud those (mostly young) who attempt it, but it is a lost cause. We are drawing our lines. If you're in California and believe in conservative, small government, move here to Idaho - you'll be happy. If you're in Idaho and enjoy kids dancing on stripper poles and abortion, move to California. They will welcome you and you'll be happy.
We are drawing lines. Everyone needs to choose what side of the lines they want to be on. The "conservative" side of the line is losing ground, but there are still places most of us can go and at least live out our lives in slow social decline versus a jump off a cliff.