Ouch!!
Having been adopted at birth, I found out when my a-father died when I was 19..
I spent the last decade trying to find my birth families.. (started the year my a-mother died)
To be honest, the searching was a major PITA... Fortunately, my wife got VERY good at it..
(She even re-united 2 sets of siblings that didn't know about each other... She may make a
career move in that direction when the grandkids get older) I finally found my b-families,
(and a million cousins!!) but IL really keeps the info under lock and key.. For reasons that
are NOT clear..
Reason I'm chiming in is that my best friend in high school dated my b-half-sister(although
I didn't know it at that time, obviously.. and she was from a different HS....) I thought
she was cute, but never had the nerve to ask her out after she broke up with my best friend..
(She doesn't realize what happened yet.. I'll be talking to her in a month or so at a family reunion..
Talk about strange twists!!)
Life does have strange ways of bringing people together..
Steve