I remember when I was a child and I had friends who smoked.
There was a way they used to get around having the younger sibilings telling the parents. It was a game like this:
Kid finds his brother smoking. Brother says, "Smoke this or I will tell Mom that I caught you smoking." After some back and forther, Kid takes a smoke. "Don't ever tell Mom I smoke because you just smoked with me."
Governors are being forced to take the money because their citizens paid the money in taxes (supposedly, minus the wealth redistribution factor). Then, once they take it, the .gov gets to say, "Ha! You took the money. Now you can't complain."