I've had casual aquaintances with Specwar, being on the same ship, bought a rifle from one, sold a rifle to another, shot IPSC at Blackwater, squadded with Erik Prince on day, also shot IPSC with some Delta guys who disappeared mid-match early 2002 and never came back. (At the match with full beard going and sat-phone leash
) The common theme seems to be quiet and polite. You can pick them out in VaBch, massively fit looking, but not like a roid head, laid-back, deep tans, iffy military haircuts, nice watch, sunglasses, shorts and sandals if they have any say. Many of them very normal seeming family folks.
The key word I suspect many people miss in SEAL is "Team." One Seal just doesn't take over a country and probably isn't too scary unless they're the one SEAL sent to remove you. Go on liberty overseas with a SEAL platoon onboard. The chance of seeing one SEAL out alone is zero. I'd hate to be the dumbass that picked a barfight with the one SEAL they saw.
My 2nd Cousin was a Vietnam SEAL, really in it. Good luck telling it. Sir, ma'am, never says the mildest curse word. Pretty weird considering the coarse action he has been party to.