Why do you say that about marriage, and not other issues? Why is direct action so appropriate to that area?
Oh, and the number of same-sex couples is probably arrestable. Not really that many of them.
I do think that, and believe that about other areas too. Maybe even practice it after a fashion.
However, those areas aren't germane to to this thread, which is about those crusading for same-sex marriage, and conversely, a threat that someone may try to pass laws or ordinances forcing churches who disagree with same-sex marriage on moral grounds to host them against their will. I do think the parallels are a little closer though. The gay marriage movement at least likes to equate themselves with the Civil Rights Movement, or actually as just another phase or continuation of it. So IMO, it does have even more bearing.
If they really believe same-sex marriage is a civil rights issue for them and it's that important, then "get on the wrong seat of the bus", "have a sit-in at the straights-only lunch counter", "brave the dogs and fire-hoses" etc., or at least metaphorically speaking, and do so in the areas that impact same-sex marriage, or the churches being threatened with being forced to perform same-sex marriages.
I myself may or may not be doing that very same thing about CCW, taxes, phosphate dish detergent... or any other number of issues that are dear to me. However, getting into specifics on an open forum about it is probably not wise.
The corollary to life in a Republic and how it "defends the rights of the minority from the tyranny of the majority" is that we also don't fall all over ourselves for every last minority group desire or complaint either. We live in a nation that got it's start in a "war of treason" with at least 100,000 deaths, either direct or indirect, all sides, over a
three cent tax on tea, where private property was destroyed and dumped into the ocean. (obviously, I simplify...) And in that context of our founding, if the complaint
is that important to that minority group, well, some civil disobedience (and the consequences), or even bloodshed isn't that "big a deal", or at least it shouldn't be.