I'm sure we have all known the guy who spouts off about submissive wives and how he is the leader of his household.
Then after you get to know or observe the family you see the same compromises being made as well as sharing of responsibilities that healthy couples all learn to make.
For some reason the rhetoric of submission is important to support except when it comes to the practical running of a household
We're to wash each others feet (metaphorically). Submit and serve one another. Use common sense in the division of labor and responsibilities yet be flexible.
How the haters construe that as patriarchy and oppression is a mystery to me.