The HOA thing is analogous to the THR problem. An HOA or a gunboard should come together and agree on standards, then stick to them. The goal, being betterment, friendly relations and added value to the neighborhood, virtual, or otherwise. The problem arises when people use the standards as a bully pulpit to advance their world view(rampant cop thread locking?) or when they ignore all standards, logic and common sense, because they live in the community but their world view trumps all.
Real world example. I live on 50 acres, I have a road that passes about 300 yards over person A's property. Person B also has right of way on A's road, as well as about 400 yards of my road. The maintenance agreement stipulates we handle all the costs(long story) and gives person B, their heirs and future buyers a 13ft right of way.(not enough by ordinance to subdivide their 200 acres, play mean with me and we play back) Anyways, We bought our land from B's brother. Brother who hasn't spoken to him in 30 years. All of the land was in the family since 18whatever. B and his troublemaking kid think they own our road and somehow did us a favor by holding up our land purchase for two weeks, running off contractors, and such. I talked to them, it may have had an effect, they have been quiet for 7 months. Usually though, much like the BUSH BAD! crowd, or the cops bad, or the cops good crowd, these cats were blind, and I mean Ray Charles got a stick and sunglasses blind to logic. You can explain how to be a good neighbor, state law, or forum rules to them and it has no effect, except for them to recycle all their babble. Community standards, recognizing others rights to exist and think freely, what's that? Idiots abound, ban them, get no trespass orders like I did, and keep them guessing about just how mad they make you. Me, I open carry at home and have the random target practice session. What is the virtual equivalent? I suggest that we have a banned members forum, the mod makes a post about who got banned, why he got banned, how mad it makes the mod, then locks it. Visible and ugly carnage.