So then why do you assume I'm not happy or that I look like or behave like a man? Neither of those are the case.
What I said is that I base my life on what is good for me and my loved ones, not to make people like me, and I choose my clothing based what is comfortable and/or practical. I'm a woman and failing to dye my hair and wear heels doesn't change that. What does change is your perception of me, which quite frankly, is your problem, not mine. I'm not here to make the general population happy.
Odd how you keep finding male characteristics in all this, when all I see is common sense.
Sigh, nevermind. I never meant to suggest that you specifically weren't happy, or that you needed to be more girlie, or anything like that.
I see lots of women who appear to believe that "getting what they want" and "being feminine" are mutually exclusive. You made vague intimations in that direction when you said...
My purpose in life isn't to be sexy. It's to accomplish things, none of which currently involved Revlon products.
...which seems to suggest that "being sexy" and "accomplishing things" cannot coexist. Maybe I misread you.
In any event, the notion that "being feminine" and "getting what you want" are mutually exclusive is flat out wrong. There's no reason you can't have both, if that's what you want. But is that what every woman should want?
Seems sensible to me that we oughta savor as much of our miserably short lives as possible. We should enjoy every aspect of who we are. That means being feminine, or masculine, to the best of our abilities. Too many folks do the exact opposite. They work hard to not be who they are, as if self-denial will give them fulfillment.
Femininity isn't a matter of dying hair or wearing impractical clothes. It's about being a woman through and through, shamelessly, and enjoying every minute of it. It's about savoring life and wringing every last drop out of it. Enjoy your own beauty, enjoy your husband or boyfriend, enjoy your family and your children, and all those who you love. Enjoy all of the really important things in life. (If this makes me a backwards sexist bigot, then so be it.)
All of the most attractive women I've ever met have lived their lives this way. All of the happiest and most fulfilled women I know have lived their lives this way, too. I don't believe it's a coincidence. Happiness, self-delight, and beauty are all different aspects of the same whole.
It works the same way for men as well. The most satisfied and appealing men I've ever known are the same way - they're men, in the fullest sense of the word, and deliberately so.